I think I'm just about to have a trial separation from my husband. We've only been married about 20 months and have a 3yr old and an 18m old. My first pregnancy wasn't planned and in order for us to be a family I moved 120miles away from the place that I'd lived in for 30 years. I do like where we live now, but I have hardly any friends and no family nearby. I'm fortunate to have a good movable job, so don't need to rely on him financially (actually don't wAnt any of his money) so long as I move back to where I'm from (currently 1/2 my salary goes on childcare and I could never afford a house if I was continuing to pay this - my mum will do childcare for free). He's told me he can get a court order to prevent me moving away with the children. Is this true? Also, one of the reasons for leaving is that he is a useless father. Since the eldest was born the longest he has ever looked after them is 8 hours, and that is under duress and he phoned me frequently to ask all sorts of questions which any vaguely engaged father would know thd answer to (like what to give them for lunch). Basically he couldn't look after them for a weekend, and worse than that he might get his mum to 'help' and she is dangerous around them (gives them plastic bags to play with). Ideally I'd like to go for sole custody, but I know he would never agree to this, what rights do I have? Also how much does a basic divorce cost? Neither of us had been unfaithful, we are just 2 very different people who have tried very hard to make a family and it hasn't worked.
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