This is my first Christmas away from my EA ex. Previously he has always organised Christmas as he is very details-focused and I have ADD and have panic attacks about organising anything, especially under pressure. Which is not to say that I don't try - but my crap brain won't work in an organised way. It's hugely frustrating and quite difficult for people to understand - they think I should be able to just push myself through it. Unfortunately this makes me have mental blocks and palpitations (ffs) so I just do my best. He has given me a HUGE list of stuff he has got the DCs. I have got a Barbie set of two dolls each for the girls (5 and 6) and nothing so far for the boy (8). I feel inadequate and shit. I already feel bad that DS wants us both to be there on Christmas Day (can't do it, ex makes me feel mentally terrible every time I see him) and now I'm getting upset that I won't be able to give the kids a good Christmas due to lack of organisation and general crapness. I'm already hearing about how my ex is taking the kids all over the place, doing loads of things with them, and generally being Superdad (guess whether any of this happened before the split!). Feel like I'm falling apart today. On Friday I have to tell him at mediation that he needs to get his stuff out by the end of February. I'm dreading his reaction. It's not helping me sort out bloody Christmas either!
If anyone has any ideas for activities or food that are easy and cheap, but special, or any cheap but impressive (to kids!) present ideas, I'd be very grateful. Going shopping today.
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Lone parent Christmas panic attacks!
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BadSeedsAddict · 18/12/2013 06:30
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