I have name changed as don’t want to link to other posts but I’m a long standing mumsnetter. My mother has Alzheimer’s and currently at home with full time live in carer. It generally works well and DM enjoys being in her own home. My siblings would like her to move to a small nice specialist care home nearer them. Currently I live closer to her so I tend to be the family member who visits most and a lot of the “running the house” tasks seem to fall to me. It’s quite a responsibility as I’m also a full time worker and single mother. I can see that if I agreed to the move for DM to a care home it would be much more straightforward for me, I could simply visit without all the additionally roles I have to fulfil currently. My siblings think it would be good for her as they state they would visit more, she could “make friends” etc etc. I’m not so sure. She’s a fairly formidable character and likes things her own way. I fear she could really hate the move and cause mayhem for the other residents and staff. Whereas in her own home she’s largely calm although does have her moments.
I can’t decide whether I should agree to the move, or whether her wish to stay in her own home is paramount. To give context she is cognitively at an advanced stage of dementia (not knowing how to blow out candles on her cake for context), but physically fairly fit and well and able bodied. I would welcome any advice. Myself and siblings have shared power of attorney and we are self funding. Thanks in advance.
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
Stay at home or move to care home
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Classicf · 10/04/2021 14:45
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