Hello all,
After a bit of advice. My DGFIL (DH’s grandfather) has been showing signs of dementia for a few years now. He forgets how to get to places, forgets appointments, forgets recent conversations he has has and most recently he has forgotten my name (he has known me for more than 12 years) and the names of our two DSs and is refusing to take his medication for arthritis. The problem is we (the whole family) don’t think he would accept it if we suggested he may well have dementia and he should go to the GP. The furtherest any conversation has gone is that he has said “my memory isn’t quite what it used to be”. My MIL (his DD) said she was going to “work on him” about a year ago but nothing seems to come of this (and I am 99% sure she wouldn’t have tried the “straight to the point” approach).
He is now not bothering to do any washing up or other basic housework, MIL is constantly finding mouldy food despite clearing through it herself most weeks.
MIL has now told us all that we need to be going round there regularly to do their housework. When it was mentioned about seeing if they (GF and GM) would be entitled to some help due to his dementia it was said that “it would upset him and probably send him over the edge because he would probably lose his driving licence which is his last bit of freedom”. Whilst I understand their point I feel uncomfortable NOT reporting him as I believe he is a danger to himself and others when behind the wheel. What can we do?/what would you do?
Also, to anyone wondering why GM can’t do the housework- she is wheelchair bound after breaking her hip over a year ago, she has very little energy and needs help dressing, washing etc. She sleeps in a bed in the front room as she can not get up her stairs to her bedroom. GF is essentially her carer despite suffering with arthritis himself.
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Dementia and Alzheimer's
How to deal with dementia when everyone seems in denial?
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DumbledoresPants · 15/01/2018 15:33
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