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Pratts Sun 24-Jun-18 16:41:49

My ex wife re married 6 years ago. Although we had joint custody. Our son has always lived with her and I see my son one night a week. And my own admission I have hardly helped with school holidays maybe a total of 6 weeks over the 8 years we have been spilt. Her husband is in the armed forces and she wants to move 150 miles away to be near his base. She has a school and house lined up. And she had told me that our son who is 13 is happy about the move and wants to go. I’m not willing to consent so we have to go to court to sort it I believe . She has offered me access of 2 weekends a month and she has offered to drive half way to meet me one weekend a month and the other she will drive most of the way I will have travel 12 miles on that occasion. She has also offered half of the school hols which I have never done before . What are my chances of stopping her ???

rainingcatsanddog Sun 24-Jun-18 18:03:43

She's offering you more contact than you have now so is being reasonable in my opinion. (I understand why the driving half way might annoy you though)

aoeu Thu 28-Jun-18 18:11:49

She seems fairly reasonable to be honest? The alternative - if you could block this - is that although she is looking after the child the vast majority of the time, she is never allowed to move for any reason - work, family, whatever without your explicit consent? I'm not a lawyer, but that would seem to be a pretty extreme decision for split families everywhere.

If you're currently getting one night a week, then every other weekend plus half the school hols sounds like a pretty decent swap to me. Weekends and holidays are more fun than weekdays anyway!

NotUmbongoUnchained Thu 28-Jun-18 18:15:55

You’re a cock. HTH.

Abouttoblow Thu 28-Jun-18 18:19:42

Why don't you offer to have to him full time and take him to see his mum at the weekends? hmm

SoddingUnicorns Thu 28-Jun-18 18:23:08

You’re being offered more contact than you currently have, and she’s being more than reasonable with the travel. You’re going to get laughed out of court.

Why are you refusing to consent? By your own admission you’ve hardly been actively involved, and haven’t done holidays? Why not?

Vitalogy Thu 28-Jun-18 18:30:59

Do you have another family yourself? Could you move?
I would go where ever my child was. I know more difficult if you've started another family.

happysnappysandwich Thu 28-Jun-18 18:31:27

All of the above, plus your DS wants to go. Why are you trying to block it? I don't get it, genuinely

SoddingUnicorns Thu 28-Jun-18 18:31:59


Thebookswereherfriends Thu 28-Jun-18 18:37:18

Is there any good reason why you've hardly done any care in the holidays?
One night a week seems like a very small amount of time to connect with your son.
What reason do you have for blocking your ex from moving?

SoftBallSophie Thu 28-Jun-18 18:37:39

Why would you try to block this when you are going to end up seeing MORE of your DS?

AnneLovesGilbert Thu 28-Jun-18 18:42:10

Reverse. No one speaks of their own behaviour like this.

IdLikeABiscuitPlease Thu 28-Jun-18 18:42:10

It's the fact that op can no longer just pick his son up & drop him whenever he feels like it.

Op, you are being unreasonable.....she could be a dick and tell you to drive half way both weekends.

As PP's have said, you'll be seeing your DS more than you have bothered to.

Vitalogy Thu 28-Jun-18 18:44:56

Why would you try to block this when you are going to end up seeing MORE of your DS? Maybe that's the reason.

Kingsclerelass Thu 28-Jun-18 18:46:58

Why would you want to stop her?

ohamIreally Fri 29-Jun-18 18:04:54


letsdolunch321 Fri 29-Jun-18 18:07:14

WTF ..... any accomodating dad would be happy with this arrangement

MiroUnicorn Mon 05-Nov-18 11:05:20

SoddingUnicorns hit the nail on the head with one word - 'control'! OP you are being very unreasonable! Are you trying to 'block' this arrangement because you don't want to see your DS (and/or assume more responsibility for him) more than you do at the moment?

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