I invited my partner and her youngest son to move into my house in 2009, not knowing what a nightmare I was letting myself in for.
he at the time was 6ft 3in and almost 18, he was still sleeping with his teddy and having a comforter, I found out quite quickly he was and still is an attention seeker and a drama queen, if we took him shopping he wanted to hold mummies hand and if we went out to dinner without him he would get the hump.
it didn't take long for him to cause trouble with such things as his lies, disrespecting the home, he threatened me with a glass tumbler and I still don't know why, but his father was supposed to be making threats towards me about attacking me with a base ball bat, I assume because of another one of his lies , and wrecking his newly decorated bedroom, he went off to university, thank god, saw him a few times when he came back , but by this time I didn't want anything to do with him.
in 2016 it was finally admitted he was trying to split up myself and my partner with his behaviour, it was obvious to me from the start but she claimed she didn't know, I understand she was in the middle of it and she felt guilty towards him because his father was a bully, even after a year I still have not had an apology from him, he has now moved back into the area , I still haven't seen him as I won't have anything to do with him as his behaviour was hurtful and very upsetting, it has also been made worse by being told none of his family care what he had done to me as he is family, even though I have been with my partner 11 years i'm still the outsider, he is the only thing my partner and myself argue about and I am now under pressure to get on with him as I refuse to go to any of her family events because of him, I have said I will for my partners sake ( I wouldn't care if I ever saw him again) but I want a genuine written apology from him, It is now getting on for 4 weeks since this apology was promised, after all this time I very much doubt that I will get any sort of apology, but why should he when his family don't care what he has done or the hurt and upset he has caused to me, I believe every one should be accountable for their actions.
it is me that is missing out of the family events, I had thought about going along and making him uncomfortable, i'm more afraid of losing it with him.
any ideas of what to do next will be appreciated and am I over reacting
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btp54 · 06/03/2017 17:31
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