I'm a bit stunned really.
I agree with the citizens assembly recommendations. I don't see how we can allow for 'deserving' cases for termination without opening those floodgates that the PLC are always rabbeting on about. In short, my stance is that I trust women. I trust that when they get an unexpected positive test, they will make the right decision for them. I trust that not a single woman I know who's had a crisis pregnancy, a devastating 20wk scan that they've chosen their path in life with a lot of thought and soul searching. I trust that she will with the guidance of her doctor, make the right decision. It may not be the decision I would make, but she will make the one right for her.
I asked DP tonight how he would be voting. We had a spirited discussion, I suppose you'd call it, and he referenced a lot of pro-life rhetoric that I'd come to recognise. I don't think he's fully pro-life, but he certainly is struggling with the idea that repealing the 8th will mean that women will have abortions for [in his mind] spurious or frivolous reasons.He believes that life should be given a chance. And then he said that the way he votes is really not my business and he was a bit defensive when he said it.
For context, we had had 5 mc's, 1 dc. I'm mid forties, not on contraception since 2009. I've been thinking about getting the coil but when I broached it, I clumsily picked the worst time possible to bring it up and he asked me could we talk about it another time. I don't need to ask his permission or anything, but family planning is a joint discussion, and we've always agreed on what contraception we would use, and we agreed when we would stop using contraception so this is a conversation he should be involved in too. But I think he's secretly hoping for that miracle pregnancy that I somehow carry to term. We had never contemplated having an only child. Before TTC we wanted more than one- maybe about three. I've adjusted to the idea of having an only child now, I'm not sure he's there yet.
But it's shook me. I thought that I could trust him to make the right decision if I was ever in a situation like Savita, or like the poor woman on life support, or if we had a FFA and my MH wouldn't be strong enough to carry to term.
I've had 2 glasses of wine so I may be skewed in my thinking right now, but I'm disappointed in him. I'm disappointed that despite him knowing that probably thanks to the 8th one of our miscarried babies might have survived, he's still likely going to vote to save the 8th.
I'm not even sure what I'm asking here really sorry.
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I'm all for repeal, I don't think DP is.
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OhCalamity · 09/04/2018 01:42
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