Child’s class told to self isolate/ lone parent

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Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 08:57:43

I got a phone call this morning to say my sons class has to self isolate but I have 2 other children at school, they asked me if I have anyone else that can bring them (I don’t I’m a lone parent) they said they would call me later to discuss what can be arranged , has this happened to anyone else and what is the outcome??

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AaronPurr Thu 19-Nov-20 08:59:56

It's happend a few times at our school. Staff have collected the child/ren at the gate / from the carpark, so parents can bring the isolating child and remain in the car.

Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 09:01:27

Oh ok I don’t drive

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Sirzy Thu 19-Nov-20 09:02:40

How old are the children involved?

Old enough to stay at home for school run?
Old enough for you and isolating child to stand a distance from school and them go from there?

Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 09:04:48

I’m sure if he is self isolating he is not allowed out at all??

And no he is 8 and won’t be old enough to be left.

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SingANewSongChickenTikka Thu 19-Nov-20 09:14:10

In a few cases at our school staff have been collecting/taking home kids where parents or siblings are isolating. It is a school on a large new build development though so almost every child lives within a ten minute walk. They arrive a little late and leave a little early to not draw attention,

TheNortherner Thu 19-Nov-20 09:19:35

Another thread very similar...I have left 8 yo daughter on her own whilst doing school run with other child. What else can you do? Leave the door so they can get out easily, explain where to go in an emergency, tell them not to mess with anything electrical except the remote for the tv...put a film on, do a remote video call with someone to monitor them whilst out...maybe yourself between your phone and a tablet in the house so you can hear and talk to each other and do the school run.

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Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 09:21:29

Nope won’t be leaving him. School previously reported me to social services for doing that with my daughter. So won’t be even thinking about that this time.

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AaronPurr Thu 19-Nov-20 09:23:22

Givemeabreak88

Nope won’t be leaving him. School previously reported me to social services for doing that with my daughter. So won’t be even thinking about that this time.

There must be more backstory to this. How old was your daughter? confused

BigBlueBow Thu 19-Nov-20 09:24:08

How do you normally get them to school? How old are the children?

Is there a bus they can get? Or can someone else take them? Is there a school taxi company?

Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 09:26:15

There must be more backstory to this. How old was your daughter?

Nope son told the school, daughter was 8.

* How do you normally get them to school? How old are the children?

Is there a bus they can get? Or can someone else take them? Is there a school taxi company?*

No none of that that I’m aware of, we normally walk or get the bus, other children are 9 and 6

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KihoBebiluPute Thu 19-Nov-20 09:26:29

You are right to not consider leaving your child alone.

If the school can't help with an acceptable solution, the other kids will have to stay home too. tbh it doesn't make much sense for just one member of a household to be isolating anyway. If there's genuinely a risk of infection then the whole household will have that risk.

Sirzy Thu 19-Nov-20 09:27:39

Surely at 9 and 6 you can stand away from the school with your 8 year old and they can walk from there?

Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 09:28:32

KihoBebiluPute

Thank you. Yes the school did report me I’m not sure why people
Must think that’s a lie, we live about a mile from the school so would be about 15 mins there and 15 mins back.

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Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 09:29:21

Sirzy I thought the 8 year old isn’t allowed out at all?? Not just not allowed at school?

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TheNortherner Thu 19-Nov-20 09:30:06

Blimey!? If the school feels that you are so incapable as a parent to judge whether your child can, in exceptional circumstances be left on their own, then the school should be facilitating solutions imo.

Comefromaway Thu 19-Nov-20 09:31:20

Givemeabreak88

Sirzy I thought the 8 year old isn’t allowed out at all?? Not just not allowed at school?

You thought correctly.

PrivateD00r Thu 19-Nov-20 09:40:31

If there really is no one else who can help you, then they will have to stay off. It always makes me sad though when people don't have anyone at all they can call on for help, like other parents in school or friends. Is there really no one, or do you just not want to ask? In my area, another parent would happily let your dc tag on on their school run.

Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 09:43:59

PrivateD00r no it’s not that I don’t know anyone it’s that no one is able to due to work etc, I don’t have any school mum friends a couple of people I say hello to but I’m not friends with any of them and don’t have their numbers, I don’t think that’s particularly unusual judging by the threads I see about it on here.

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Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 09:45:49

And just to be clear I have people that could pick them up in an emergency etc but not someone who can commit to the school run for the next two weeks.

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TheNortherner Thu 19-Nov-20 09:55:09

@Givemeabreak88 I wouldn't/dont have anyone who can help, even the kids dad refused to see the non isolating one...so can't expect others to be comfortable with it if he won't.

TheSunIsStillShining Thu 19-Nov-20 09:58:23

It makes no sense that others don't have to isolate. The potential to infect others in the household is huge. A small kid won't be self isolating within the home. I'd keep them all home.

Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 09:59:49

The letter from the school says no one else in the household needs to isolate which no, doesn’t really make sense.

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PrivateD00r Thu 19-Nov-20 10:11:16

Of course it makes sense. If you started to isolate contacts of contacts, where would it end? So all of your family would have to isolate, plus anyone you and them had been in contact with, plus everyone those people had been in contact with? It has to end somewhere!

Sounds like you have no choice but to keep them off then op. I guess it depends on the area, in my area everyone helps each other out so that just wouldn't happen here, unless of course someone deliberately kept to themself. Most don't though.

Givemeabreak88 Thu 19-Nov-20 10:18:35

I’m in London and no one is particularly friendly at my kids school, I’ve tried in the past but no one has been that welcoming and I have given up, I chat to a couple of mums a bit of small talk but our children aren’t friends so it’s not developed out of school.

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