Two random people recently moved into my flat, M (30), F (22) and I'm F (28.) He's a bar manager and she works in a clothing store, so both are furloughed. From the beginning of the lockdown she's been having friends over/going to gatherings. Our immediate neighbour has noticed and commented. I'm WFH full-time.
I would have possibly let it go if it had been one person, but this was numerous people. On top of this she's smoking in the flat and doing drugs constantly. She's very touchy feely and obsessive about me and has kissed me on the lips numerous times, always trying to hug me and hold hands with me. In pre-corona times, I'm happy to be affectionate with friends, but kissing on the lips etc is something I've never done and feel particularly uncomfortable with, as I don't kiss anyone on the lips, even in a friendly way, other than a romantic partner.
A lot of friends say just tell her, but it's easier said than done. She's a very, very friendly, hyper girl. After the neighbours complained about her having people around and being noisy at all hours, I did mention to her that I think she needs to be more careful as there's the possibility of fines. All this would be fine in normal circumstances, but she's done/said things at times that make me feel she's quite unhinged. She thinks we're the best of friends, but I actually feel uncomfortable with all her behaviour.
Some would say report her, but I feel like it would be obvious who had done it and I've got to live here until at least January. Whilst I'm not overly worried that Covid would kill me, if I have to isolate or got ill it could mean I couldn't work, might not be able to go home for Christmas (assuming we're allowed), won't be able to see boyfriend once lockdown ends. I'm not living under a shell by any means and have seen a few people pre-lockdown, gone to restaurants but I feel these have all been measured risks. I worked out I've had more contacts via her in the last 9 days than the previous nine months.
The guy generally hasn't been having anyone over, but did go to a party with work colleagues the other night.
Summary: 22-year-old girl who acts obsessive about me is flouting the lockdown, smooching me and generally not acting too Covid-friendly. Can be aggressive and mentally unstable, so not sure how to express my discomfort without causing an explosion.
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Flowersinthewindowstill · 15/11/2020 18:04
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