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Wondering if my DPs will ever eat out again?

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rookiemere Sat 01-Aug-20 11:59:35

My DPs are in their 80s, DF has diabetes and is 86, DM is 81.

DM has taken coronavirus very seriously- she used to be a doctor- so wouldn't let us come up and visit after Feb half term Austria ski break and its only since end of May that she has let us visit. We all live in Scotland which is fairly relevant.

They have been coping well through lockdown. I arranged milk delivery and they got online deliveries set up. Recently they have ventured to a fruit stall type place. DF is chomping at the bit to go back to the supermarket and out for a meal. So DH and I had recently been to an outdoors place that I thought would fit the bill as tables apart, no need to go inside, easy to get to etc.etc. agreed with both of them to go there.

Except DM has just cancelled citing some random reason she needs to visit the doctors and doesn't want to go to this place as well. It's obvious she just doesn't want to go and that's absolutely her decision and we don't want to force her to do anything she's not comfortable with.

I just feel sad for DF, numbers are so low in Scotland at the minute and having decent enough weather to eat outside is a fleeting thing. He was really excited about going out and had been emailing me about it. I don't want to get into the middle of it and I certainly wouldn't want to be responsible for either of them catching it, but equally I feel it's sad for DF that he can't do something that would give him enjoyment.

Oh and just remembered they are going to the library this afternoon so they aren't avoiding things totally. I also think DM doesn't particularly enjoy going out for a meal - she's gluten free so needs to take care - and this is one of the reasons they aren't going.

Are anyone else's DPs like this ? If both of them were happy to stay in I wouldn't mind so much.

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Hippofrog Sat 01-Aug-20 12:37:19

Can you just take your dad out for a meal?

Hippofrog Sat 01-Aug-20 12:38:17

My parents are mid 70’s and one is far more cautious than the other so he stays home and she does what she fancies (always has)

rookiemere Sat 01-Aug-20 12:41:03

@Hippofrog I can't do that as DM is more anxious about DF catching it than she is about herself. She also says quite frequently that if one of them catch it, then the other one will as well.

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