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Is this reasonable to have a relative stay overnight.

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JustTryingToGetThroughThis Mon 01-Jun-20 22:40:12

Nc as outing and I have friends who use MN. So need to be slightly vague

I have 3 dc. Youngest being 3m. Suffering PND but haven't seen gp as can't do it face to face and I have anxiety making video link calls.
Dh back at work and I'm struggling. With an older child, Toddler and baby.
Most days are OK but occasionally I feel I can't do another day. We've recently moved and we're burning candle both ends.
Trying to sort utilities when lots of companies are only partially open or its an hour wait on the phone

I'm struggling today and was one day last week in which I got a teen relative to come and stay to help.
Teen only goes between their 2 parents. And both those parents are furloughed so very small risk. The teen absolutely doesn't go anywhere else. Even shops with the parents for the groceries.

Woudk this be deemed acceptable as I'm Now worrying its not for a jolly good time. Its for genuine help.

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Claireshh Mon 01-Jun-20 22:45:09

Honestly I think it would be absolutely fine. You are struggling. To be honest even without PND I would find three children really tough in lockdown. If you employed her as a nanny that is absolutely allowed. Two of my friends had nanny’s back at work today.

pfrench Mon 01-Jun-20 22:51:58

The new law is rammed full of loop holes. Do what you've risk assessed.

Catsmother1 Mon 01-Jun-20 22:54:11

You are not supposed to, but after seeing my daughters mental health deteriorate over lockdown, I would say it’s fine. You have mental health needs, and need assistance.

JustTryingToGetThroughThis Mon 01-Jun-20 22:56:04

She's only 15 so can't be a nanny.
she's so good I wouldnt want her or us to get in trouble. I'd sooner struggle.
DH isn't back FT yet thankfully his works are great but the weeks vary from 2 to 4 days ish
I feel awful as so many are in this situation and aren't lucky to have help.
Normally pre lockdown toddler had various things like playgroup etc that passed time and helped my MH. Only 1 day of the week was a free day in which we met my DM and caught up for lunch or shopping

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GazingAndGrazing Mon 01-Jun-20 22:58:25

I think it’s a necessary need from what you have written here.

PasserbyEffect Mon 01-Jun-20 23:28:12

Go for it.

TheHarryFormerlyKnownAsPrince Mon 01-Jun-20 23:45:59

I’d absolutely do it.

Iggi999 Mon 01-Jun-20 23:46:13

Incidentally do you know the GP appointment would be a video? Ive had two appointments since lockdown began and both were over the phone. You could easily just say you don't have wifi.

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