My sister’s father-in-law passed away earlier week (CV).
They are understandably finding it very difficult of course. My bro-in-law has struggled with his mental health for past few years. DSis is understandably very worried about how they are going to get through the coming weeks.
They have one DC age 5 who is has suspected ASD and was in the early stages of assessment. He doesn’t understand of course, and has already been finding the lockdown very difficult. He is a demanding and challlenging child (albeit wonderful). Usually their support network is our parents, me and our other sister. My sister and bro-in-law are of course feeling the struggle and isolation makes is harder.
My mum suggested that it might be helpful if one of us (me or my other sister) takes DNephew for the weekend to help my sis and bro-in-law. Before CV we would often have him for weekends to give them a break. My other sis and I obviously are aware that this is breaking the rules and not allowed and told my parents this. My parents cannot have him as they are over 70.
My sis is not asking for this, it’s only a suggestion from my parents as we have seen how difficult it is for them.
It’s just so frustrating that we cannot just support them in the way we would normally.
I am torn between my heart and my head. My other sister also feels the same - we know it is against the rules, but it just seems so unfair and it might be easier for my sis and broin law to grieve with a few days break from their very lively and bouncy 5 year old.
We all feel so helpless over Zoom and FaceTime 😢😢😢
WWYD? AIBU to want to break the rules to collect my nephew? I know I am being U. I know it but I feel awful 😢
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WWYD - supporting my sister and bro-in-law
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Userwhatevernumber · 17/04/2020 12:44
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