Hi,
Okay, I feel like I've got such a lot to say but I'm going to try and keep this short and just give the basic facts, rather than a life story, because I don't want people falling asleep before they reach the end of my post!
- Myself and my husband have just started trying to conceive our first baby.
- At the moment, only we know this, and we're happy to keep it that way.
- When I test positive, there are three very close members of my family that I'd like to tell immediately.
- Mum - I've always been very close to her and keeping secrets (especially such a big one) doesn't feel right. Also, I've never done this before and, supportive and wonderul as my husband is, he's even more clueless than I am! Mum, on the other hand, has done it all before.
- Dad - again, very close to him and don't like secrets, but also feel that he'll be big support to Mum and that it's unfair to ask her to keep it from him. It's not very long since she lost her own mum, my darling Gran, and it's bound to be a very emotional time.
- Sister - same thing - we never normally have secrets. Also, she's on a par with my parents and I don't feel she should be the last to know. She's going to be almost as excited about this pregnancy as we will be.
- My husband doesn't mind when we announce the pregnancy. He's happy to do it right away, or wait as long as I like. What he has said though, is that he doesn't want my mum to know weeks before his mum knows.
- I would agree with that. I like his mum. And I feel she would be supportive too. She had six children herself. However, I have a BIG problem with telling her, because I know for a fact that she won't be able to keep her mouth shut for more than two minutes. My husband agrees. Once she knows, the world knows.
- So we're faced with a choice, as he sees it. We either tell no one or we tell everyone.
- I definitely don't want everyone knowing right away. But I feel like this is possibly the one time in my life that I'm going to need my mum more than ever. I totally get that my mum shouldn't be favoured over his mum in terms of our baby/their grandchild. But it's how to get round the fact that it's not just our baby. It's MY body. But then that's not my husband's fault. That's just how nature works... And I WOULD tell his mum, but it's her own stupid fault that she can't keep her mouth shut, surely? The reason that I wouldn't hesitate in telling my family is that I know for a FACT that it wouldn't go any further.
I don't know what to think... I said I was going to try and keep this short... Believe it or not, I did! I just have SO much going on in my head right now, and (it seems) no outlet!
If you've gotten to the end of this, congratulations, and thank you! I realise that nothing's been resolved but I do feel as though I've been unburdened a little, having been able to get some of this off my chest... My God, I'm not even pregnant yet - how bad am I going to be when I am?!