Advice on IVF please(5 Posts)
Hello. My SIL has a terrible habit of lying about illness, medicine, Doctors etc but before I judge her unfairly I was hoping for some information.
She says she's having IVF but she's very vague about where, whether it's NHS or private and any of the details. Sometimes she claims her Uncle is paying for the IVF although other times she says they're having NHS treatment.
She says she has polycystic ovaries.
She's really quite overweight.
She's in her late 20s. Her partner has serious mental health issues and has been sectioned several times.
They,very sadly, had a stillbirth 2 years ago so has conceived and gone full term with a baby and presumably would have to been trying unsuccessfully for a time after that before being considered for treatment.
She says she's miscarried several times although has never been to hospital as far as we know or had the pregnancies cofirmed by herself or a Dr.
I hope I don't sound unfair, but my MIL is really upset and doesn't know what to believe.
Does it sound like my SIL would qualify for IVF? How long is the waiting list? Are personal circumstances considered or is everyone eligable?
I think it depends where you live what you'd be able to get, but I think, to get IVF on the NHS, she would need to have had a referral from her GP to the Fertility Unit of her local hospital, and it would go from there. For NHS treatment, I think you need to have evidence that you are unable to conceive naturally (i.e. have been trying for an extended period of time with no luck. 2 years would qualify. I got referred after that amount of time), but before getting offered IVF, they would want to check for any reasons for the infertility, like low sperm count in the man, or blocked tubes in the woman. We underwent several tests like that, including checking whether I was ovulating by testing hormones at certain times of month.
A round of IVF will cost at least 3 grand, if not 4, if she's paying for it. I have no idea if you can just roll up and say, I've got the money, can I have treatment please. Maybe you can at a private clinic.
Hopefully someone more knowledgeable will come along with more info.
Forgot to say, people can usually get the first round of treatment for free on the NHS if they don't already have children, but much less likely if they are already parents.
Thanks for this. She could be telling the truth. We just don't know what to believe.
For some health authorities they won't allow you to have IVF if your BMI is over 30, although they may allow you onto the waiting list, which is around 2 years for most SHAs.
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