Can anyone give some advice to a brand new member?!

[LipstickGirl]

Hello

I've been looking at theses posts for a few months as would really like to start trying for a baby BUT I have a couple of questions and don't want to ask friends / family as don"t really want to tell people just yet! So, if anyone can help I'd be really grateful... I'm 31 and have been married for 2.5 years so kind of ready to get started BUT I'm also about 1.5 stone overweight with a rather large credit card bill (although have a home and fairly good job) and my questions is - should I wait a few months, lose some weight and pay off any debt before trying or start now and just eat healthily, be frugal and see what happens?! Would really appreciate your comments based on experience!

Thanks

[kayzisexpecting]

Welcome to Mumsnet!! I hope you don't have a social life as its very addictive here!!!

I would say there is never a perfect time to try to concieve(ttc) You will always have a little bit of debt, be slightly overweight. If you wait for the perfect time then you will never try for a baby.

I was overweight when I got pregnant with my second(31 weeks) and we aren't the richest people in the world

I personally think you should have a talk with your other half and see what he thinks But saying that I would probably start trying now. You can try to lose weight and save money while you try.

Hope this helps slightly!!

[Wishing]

same here lipstick girl, i think most of us have a few extra pounds on our hipos rather than in our purse!! i certainly do but im still trying while trying to improve my life style at the same time - i was worried ttc would take a while so thought i would try but not try - meaning try not to obsess!! however within a short time it has become hard to think of anything else!! i wo9uld just start off trying and see how you get on!! there is always someone on nmners to help!

goodluck!! xxx

[LipstickGirl]

Thank you! You've kind of confirmed what I was thinking but it's always nice to hear it from someone else. Will just have to break news to husband now as he was quite keen to wait until the New Year! xxx

[Wishing]

new year isnt that far away!! But of you talked yoursef into it it will seem ages away!! heeheeheehee - i would just say to dh lets gove it a go see how it goes - thats what dh and me decided and he soon got into it!!

keep in touchxxxxx

[LipstickGirl]

Exactly! I was fine with New Year but now I've started taking pre-natal vitamins and I can't think of anything else and don't want to wait any longer... Besides, I've suffered from endemetriosis and I think it will probably take ages so the sooner we get started the better1

Thanks again

xxxx

[ruthosaurus]

Hey Lipstickgirl, get on with it, chick! I am due in 3 weeks and 2 days and right now I can tell you that 9 months is ages and ages - or maybe just feels like it - and you can sort out some of your debt issues while pg and get loads of baby stuff 2nd hand. Plus you'll save money on going out and H&M has great and inexpensive maternity clothing. Also, if you've been working for the same company for more than 6 months you get paid maternity leave anyway... Don't worry about the weight thing (1 1/2 stone is nowt) but I would say start doing gentle exercise if you weren't already. I didn't and I'm knackered!

We thought it would take ages as I'd been on the pill for 13 years - took 2 months. Same thing for my friend who has endometriosis - came of the pill and bam, pregnant.

Best of luck and tell your DH to get busy! He'll love that bit, anyway.

[LipstickGirl]

Thanks girls, I really appreciate you taking the time to post responses - what a lovely site this is!

Debt isn't so bad (only a couple of credit cards) and weight not terrible but I think it"s a bit of nerves so I'm making excuses - it just seems like an enormous thing doesn't it? And of course it absolutely is...

I think I'm just going to get on with it see what happens - que sera sera!

Also, good luck Ruthosauras - so exciting and I hope all goes beautifully for you.

xxx

[olivo]

lipstick, welcome to MN!i too say go for it! i decided we wouldn't ttc dc2 until i had lost my post baby weight and I had saved up enough to be off as long as i could with another baby but we have now decided to go for it when i finish this packet of pills - but 10 days time!
there will never be a good time but you muddle through whatever.
good luck and I hope MN gives you the support and wise words it has given me.

[kayzisexpecting]

I was waiting until September to start trying!!!! Once you get the thought into your head you just can't get rid off it.

Ruthosaurus is right too 9 months is a long time. Its been so slow this pregnancy but now it's just under 8 weeks until the baby is due its going far too quickly for my likely.

[ruthosaurus]

Nice one Lipstick, now get in that bedroom, young lady, no excuses... Good luck, Olivio and Kazy as well. Ooh, babies everwhere!