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It looks as though my worst fears are probably coming true I feel so depressed and tearful

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lostittoday Wed 30-Jul-08 15:14:46

I have posted on here before
ttc for almost a year without success and worried about early menopause.
Had my appointment at the fertility clinic this morning well fsh which was 16 in April is now 62 and lh was 25.5.
I suspected this would be the case due to various symptoms I have been experiencing which I had put down to the menopause.
I am only 37 and I feel cheated, numb, and I am not sure if I can even deal with it.
They said at the fertility that by looking at my blood work that it probably either means premature ovarian failure, or menopause.
They want to start me on birth control pills which I have to take for 21 days and then I have to wait and see if I get a period if I don,t then it most likely means I am in menopause which can then be confirmed with a laproscopy if thats the right word of the ovaries.
If I do get a period then they want me to have the day 21 progesterone test.
I am so confused by all of this tbh and I wonder if its even worth it now.
They want me back in October and they also want a semen analysis off my dh.
Does this plan of action with the borth control pills seem right haas naybody else ever been given a plan of action like this.
In my heart I know its not to be so is any of this even worth it.
They did say that if I am indeed in menopause then my only option of having a baby would be a donor egg.
Does anybody know whats involved with that does it cost money can you get it on the nhs.
I feel such an idiot as I broke down in front of them.

GillianLovesMarmite Wed 30-Jul-08 15:29:13

I can't offer any advice as I don't know anything to do with the situation you are in, but I thought I would post to give you some support. I would not feel like an idiot for being upset in your situation and I think the health workers you were with probably understand why you were upset.

MsG Wed 30-Jul-08 20:34:41

You poor thing, I'm not surprised you were upset either - anyone would be. I don't know anything about this either, but just wanted to offer support too. I hope someone else can give you some advice or tell you about similar situations that might help.

It must be so hard for you not knowing and having to wait. Try to stay positive - you don't know what's going to happen yet.

Good luck...


blissieblue Wed 30-Jul-08 22:03:24

I've just had similar blood test results - my FSH was 63.2 and my LH 50.5. I'm 35 and am tremendously lucky to have 2 DSs already but I want you to know that you're not alone. I've done quite a bit of research on the internet since I got my results a week ago. It might help you to look at a couple of these websites

It's such a huge shock I know but from what I understand it's not necessarily the end for you having your own biological child. Give yourself time to think about everything and take care.
Good luck.

thaliablogs Sat 02-Aug-08 09:30:22

So sorry to hear this distressing news. As far as I know, donor egg is not available on the NHS, and is pretty hard to do in this country at all unless you can find your own donor, because donating eggs is very heavily regulated and donors cannot be paid, unlike in other countries. Many people end up going abroad - to spain, south africa, or eastern europe (US is too expensive), and some clinics here will work with clinics abroad to monitor your cycle etc.

Anyway, although it is very hard to conceive with your FSH, it's not a complete impossibility, and the resources blissieblue has mentioned may be able to help. Another one to look at is

Good luck.

anniemac Sun 03-Aug-08 22:43:04

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lostittoday Mon 04-Aug-08 14:23:24

I just don,t know any more tbh.
I have hypothyrodism which I know can cause you to lose your menstrual cycle.
However I don,t think it can cause your fsh to rise.
I am due to see a endocrinoligist tomorrow to sort out my thyroid which is not controlled as yet.
I have heard that hypothyrodism can cause the same symptoms as menopause, maybe when thats controlled I will get my fertility and cycle back.
I am not too hopeful at my age though but I suppose its worth a go.

jjh Thu 07-Aug-08 21:59:07

look up IVI on the internet it is a spanish clinic with english speaking staff who can talk to you about donor ivf. it will cost about £3000

nauseous Thu 07-Aug-08 22:43:41

lostittoday I would have been in complete meltdown with the shock as well. It sounds like its not definite yet though... Best of luck with everything.

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