Been trying for 6 months ...........

[Nelli29]

Hi everyone. I have read a few of the treads in this section and feel a bit silly for worrying already as its only been 6 months! Its just that I'm finding it quite stressful. We so desperately want a child, me more so, as my husband already has a 6yr old, the new role as stepmum is not easy, so I'm sure this is adding to my anxiety. I just can't help getting upset each month. Its seems that everyone around me is expecting, I work in a surgery which doesn't help. (I am 30 in feb my husband is 34). Sometimes I convince myself that something is wrong with me. Am I going mad, does anyone else feel like this?

[suzywong]

Although this isn't very pc nor health conscious advice it worked for me with both my kids, the first one after getting upset about a previous miscarriage;

Go out with your girlfriends, have a laugh, let your hair down and drink in moderation then go home and jump your husband and remember to raise your hips above your head for 10 minutes afterwards.

HTH

[Twiglett]

What you're feeling is normal .. as soon as you decide its time to conceive you get so wrapped up in it that time seems to slow down interminably and you leave from one period to the next

Can I remind you of what you already know

It takes on average 18 months to conceive a child .. that means some people do it immediately, other people take years .. that's how you get an average

each cycle you have a 25% chance of conceiving

You are young and have plenty of time

Stop worrying

Finally a little piece of advice if I may .. if you haven't already got it, get Toni Weschler's 'How to control your fertility" book .. its excellent

[aloha]

Sod the moderation Suzywong!!
Six months isn't very long Nelli29. Your age is fine - you are really very young. If nothing happens in a few more months maybe pop along to see your GP.

[Hulababy]

Why not come and join us all on the TTC thread 16? On there we are all at different stages of TTC and there is lots of support and advice for everyone, alonmg with quite a few success stories along the way too.

I am on month 5 of TTC for baby ~2. My DD took a far while to arrive (15 months then an early mc, and then another 14-15 months) so I am not expecting this time to be fast either. I am trying to monitor BBT and CM to help pin point OV. I am 31 (32 in Feb) and my DH is 31 also.

TTC can get stressful, but 6 months, whilst feeling a life time to you right now, isn't exceptionally long for TTC sadly.

But feel free to chat along, ask for advice, get support or even just rant at times. That's what these threads are for, and there are plenty of us around.

And please do come and chat on TTC 16!

[Hulababy]

This is TTC Thread 16 . Come and chat about all things TTC whenever you like!

[alicatsg]

Relax - the worst thing you can do is get stressed about it. We went through years of this and that test and worrying and then as soon as I gave up and we went for a boozy pub lunch and an afternoon in bed, with me just being content to fall asleep after for once... hello baby. Sometimes nature just needs us to slow down.

[suzywong]

told you, a bit of booze and chilling out can work wonders
good luck

[biglips]

hear hear!

[lilsmum]

must admit it is true about relaxing about it!!! we was trying and 6 mths does seem along time, i concieved 6 mth after 1st starting to try and when did i get pregnant???? on holiday in crete, when i was relaxed and not thinking about it!!!