please no judgements very complicated topic:(
Long strong short I have been with my partner for a 2 years and ever since I met him (about 2 months in) I’ve had some crazy broodiness !
We spoke about the further and that he does want to have children together however he doesn’t want one of yet as he has a child from a past relationship (he is three ).
His BM also does not like me around her son (for no reason she just says she’s protective I just respect that and don’t pressure her). Also her and my boyfriend also always argue as she doesn’t like that he got into a relationship just prior to his sons 1st birthday (please don’t judge as we are really happy together and I’d love to see and support his son also but I’m only trying to respect the mother’s wishes)
Anyway back on topic, what do I do I see his side completely but because he has a child already does that not mean I shouldn’t have one of my own? That’s how it feels a lot and that this is decision is on his and his bm situation.
It is worth mentioning that of all the adults in this Me and my partners have good paying jobs and I have my own home and he drives. I have always wanted to have the traditional family ie marriage kids ect however this isn’t a traditional situation and I’m not than happy to be flexible because I love my man but idk what to do about this desire:( also it makes it hard because I feel excluded a lot him the sons life I am respectful of the Mother’s wishes but it does make me feel quite alone. My partner always talks about his sons which is so loveley but always says “when you’re a mother you’ll know what it’s like” unknowing of my hope to me a mother it really gets me down.
Btw before I met him I was never broody my idea was to have kids at 28+ , I turned 23 in January so clearly my plan is out the window haha!
Anyway after reading this how should I handle this situation ? Sorry it’s long and please no harsh judging obviously this is only a little of a whole relationship and again we are really happy together
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Being broody when your boyfriend already has a child *HELLPP
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Januaryflames · 05/05/2019 11:31
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