So we have been TTC (#2 and DD is already 4.5) for 3 months but as it's not working and time is against us (I'm 37 this year and my partner is 52) I decided to pay more attention to fertile windows etc and track my CM this month.
I have tried to talk to my partner about the need to have sex during the right times of the month in order for it to work but he just wants "to be cool and natural about it" meaning this month we haven't done it at all because he has been working late or not coming to bed or falling asleep before he orgasms when we did try. I have tried to say "look it's now we need to try" but he starts talking about not wanting to plan things.
I asked him if it was because he had changed his mind and he said no.
I'm trying not to get too upset but I feel like it's not likely to work at my age as it is without missing out entire months. We now won't have a baby this year. My DD will be so much older if we do manage to conceive, she is soo enthusiastic about a sibling but I fear this will all change the older she gets.
I really wanted to start trying in 2017 but due to my mother getting ill and then dying in 2018 then me getting made redundant and sorting out her affairs there just hasn't been a good time to start trying and now my partner is acting like we have all the time in the world.
I don't know how best to handle this with him, weather it's best for me to fully explain fertile windows etc or if that will just put him off more. We didn't TTC with no 1 so this is all new territory.
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pinkoi · 20/03/2019 02:50
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