Do I want #2?

[Mumlife101]

Me & OH have recently agreed to start trying for #2. Always wanted 2 kids at least... I was so excited at the prospect of getting pregnant, finding out boy or girl, the joys of new life etc... but today I got a positive OPK & totally freaked out at the idea of being pregnant again. I haven't told OH it's O day so we'll sneakily skip this month!! I don't know why I suddenly feel like this, when I was so so up for it just a week ago?! I think the prospect of bringing up 2 children, mostly alone (as OH obviously works full time) is just daunting! But is it not easier to have them close in age rather than get some freedom back then start all over again?! DC is 9 months by the way...

[Prembabymum]

I've had the same thoughts; one minute I'm desparate for another and the next I'm terrified by the idea! I've been playing fast and loose with contraceptives for a while now hoping the decision will be taken out of my hands! Stupid I know! I'm currently waiting to see if the MAP worked for me this cycle as I just got a new job! My LO is almost 1 but was 10 weeks early so only meant to be 9.5 months; he was in hospital for 8 weeks and had brain surgery etc. This was after a terribly HG pregnancy so although I want 2 i just don't know if I could cope!

[Mumlife101]

I'm sorry you had to go through all that @premmum no wonder you have your resovations! Hope DC is doing well now. It's odd isn't it? I have pregnant friends & think oh I'd love to do it all again! But in reality would I?? Right now? I'm not so sure! after all the pregnancy ends in a little human dependant on you for everything for 18+ years so I'm told

[HPFA]

I have one daughter (13) - an only by choice. I can't tell anyone whether they should have a second - in the end it'll come down to your gut feelings I suppose. I would say, it's YOUR choice, don't have any feelings of guilt about it. My daughter has always had loads of friends, never acted spoilt and has asked for a brother or sister far less than she has asked for a playstation.

[Prembabymum]

Yeah it's all about what feels right for you; my husband us an only child and loved it. I'm one of 7 though! Maybe you just need a wee bit longer; you've got time

[GreenSeededGrape]

There's almost 5 years between dd1 and dd2. At 9 months I couldn't have even contemplated it!

[workwankery]

I've done this too. Currently in my tww and decided I'm going to see how I feel when my period turns up and then probably stop TTC for 6/12 months.

[Emmafh3]

My Dad is 15 months old. I knew I wanted another one as soon as she was born but my period didn't come for 11 months. By that point I was tossing and turning over the usual how could I love another one like I love her, what if it's another girl? What if it's a boy? How would I cope (I too am raising pretty much alone with the hubby working full time and doing his own thing on the weekends mostly). Then it hit me, I'm not taking away from her but I'm giving her a best friend for life, and I get to have twice as much love for something we made from our own love for each other as partners
Then we fell pregnant on month 3, I cried regretting it all and he was overjoyed after being skeptical about it. I managed to get my head around it and was thrilled by 6 weeks pregnant, unfortunately ended in a mc. But I know from having seen those positive tests and then the negatives that I'm ready.
If it scares you, I'd say wait. I couldn't imagine doing it all with a 9 month old.
I want to make sure I've given my daughter as much as I can before she has to share me!

[Oysterbabe]

9 months is very soon. Give yourself a bit more time of you aren't sure. There's almost exactly 2 years between my 2, so I conceived when DD was 15 months. It's still early days, DS is only 3 months, but so far so good. His big sister loves him and I'm not finding it too difficult. In a couple of years I'll be reaping the rewards for this hard initial bit when they can play together.

[Mumlife101]

Thanks for all your replies, I think you're right I need a bit more time. Spoke to OH & his quite happy to wait & see. Maybe we'll discuss again when DD is over 1y. Congratulations on your new baby oyster