To wait or start trying?(3 Posts)
Hello, I’m new to mumsnet. I don’t have any kids and not expecting but need some advice....
Me and my partner are both 26 and have been together for 9 years. We both work and my partner has a good well paid job.
Were getting married this year in August and are going on our honeymoon in March next year (due to the weather). I want to start trying for a baby on our honeymoon or when we get back (I’m VERY broody already!!) I know it can sometimes take a while to conceive and I worry that it make take me longer as I have irregular periods (have done since I was 18).
My partner isn’t sure if that’s too soon and said we could wait a few years to try for a baby, so we can travel, buy a bigger car, save money and maybe even a bigger house (we purchased our 3 bed 2 years ago which has plenty of room).
Anyway my question is... do any of you wish you’d started trying earlier for a baby? Is it more sensible to wait? I don’t think there is a right time to have a baby, but I don’t want to leave it too late if I struggle to conceive?
I wish I had. Just turned 34 and started ttc just after I turned 32 - so two years. If it was always going to take two years, I wish I'd started two years earlier!! But then again, I was more likely to fall during my first cycle than for it to take this long and still not be pregnant.
But jut like you, there were milestones that we both wanted to hit - I wanted marriage first and he wanted a house. It took a long time to convince DH to buy a house (probably about 2 years to convince him that mortgages can be a good thing... but that's another story!!!). Hindsight is a great thing - but there is no crystal ball.
Do what you think will give you the fewest regrets.
We are now in the position to be starting IVF this year. Because there is so much unknown with that, it does put life on hold a bit - when will cycle start? When is egg collection? Will it work and therefor will I get pregnant?? So travel plans, job plans, everything on hold... And I've really struggled with the emotional side of ttc for such a long time too...
Is your partner actually ready for a baby? You said you wanted to start trying after honeymoon but has he agreed? His comments about waiting a few years for various reasons may also be his way of telling you that he's not ready yet. 26 is still quite young. X
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