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Poptart4 Mon 09-Oct-17 09:15:41

I had a huge fight with dp yesterday and then again this morning. I'm fuming with him about something I won't get into now but the problem is that this is my fertile week. We have to start dtd tomorrow to have a chance at conceiving this month but I'm really angry, all I want to do is smack his face - not that I would.

I really don't want to waste a month, anyone else been in this position?

RJnomore1 Mon 09-Oct-17 09:25:17

Are you sure you want to have a child with a man who makes you feel physically violent?

Betsyboo87 Mon 09-Oct-17 12:12:06

Are you sure you want to have a child with a man who makes you feel physically violent?

^This.

Don’t get me wrong, DH drives me crazy sometimes (the most untidy person in the world!) but I definitely never want to smack his face. What did you fall out over? You don’t need to go into detail but are we talking not putting his dirty socks in the laundry level or is it more flirting with another woman level?

Peanutty86 Mon 09-Oct-17 12:39:10

Just what @Betsyboo87 said.
I doubt that you would actually want to smack his face. My husband and I fight (my opinion is that as long as there are arguments, both parties care).
If it’s something not so serious, I would just say ok, shit happens, let’s crack on to get to our goal. If it is however something like he doesn’t really want a baby and you fell out over that, no one can help you here as it would be wrong to carry on. Don’t get me wrong, we all have reasons to be fuming at our other half but in my case I can be very unreasonable sometimes, especially through hormonal roller coasters....

Poptart4 Mon 09-Oct-17 13:31:03

Girls it was a figure of speech, I clearly stated I would never actually hit him! We're together 15 years with 3 kids so yeah I am sure I want a child with him.

The fight is not serious, what's dragging it out is his inability to ever admit he's wrong or say sorry. A simple sorry would sort it all out but he's too stubborn and I'm sick of letting things go.

@peanut thank you for the advice. I just have to shrug it off and get down to business because it is something we both really want.

Peanutty86 Mon 09-Oct-17 14:23:44

The ‘can’t admit that’s he’s in the wrong’ thing is probably something that most men carry in there genes..... it’s harsh and I’d hate it if someone said that to me, but let’s be honest - get over it and get shagging. Good luck!

Doglikeafox Mon 09-Oct-17 18:31:21

Although not as extreme as in your OP, I have had it a couple of times where DP and I have fallen out, he's in the wrong (IMO obviously) and I have had to forgive him purely to give trying to conceive a chance blush

VJONES1985 Mon 09-Oct-17 18:41:36

The TTC thing may be what you could use to smooth things over. I'd say something like "it's my fertile window tomorrow but I don't want to have sex if we're both still angry. Are you still looking forward to trying for another baby?" That may break the ice and hopefully make you both chat and have make up sex!! Of course, if you argued about something serious or he is refusing to speak to you, there isn't much you can do by way of TTC until it's resolved really. Good luck.

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