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47, sterilised and wanting to conceive

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WorkingGirlJem Fri 10-Mar-17 15:35:22

I was sterilised 13 years ago when I was sure my family was complete. However am now in a new relationship and we are wanting a child together.
Anyone been in a similar situation and want to talk some sense into me wink

MsMarvel Fri 10-Mar-17 15:41:17

Well from a practical point of view there are a lot of reasons why its just not possible. Can sterilisation be reversed? And even if you could, your age would indicate that it would be very difficult to conceive.

Its like me saying I really want to be a mermaid, can people talk some sense into me please.

Applesauce29 Fri 10-Mar-17 15:45:00

How old are your children. Why not just focus on them and wait for grandkids.

Sorry, but I don't agree with ttc at that age, or going down the egg donor and surrogate route. Even if you conceived straight away you'd be at least 68 by the time they finished uni. That's not really fair on the child. My father didn't even live that long, but at least I had finished school!

eurochick Fri 10-Mar-17 15:54:34

Your odds of conceiving naturally would be very small (assuming the sterilisation could be reversed). You could go down the route of using an egg donor, in which case the sterilisation shouldn't be relevant.

WorkingGirlJem Fri 10-Mar-17 16:08:03

My children are 22, 20, 18, 16 and 13.
I wasn't thinking of having the sterilisation reversed, more about IVF.
My age does worry me, but only about how our child would view it.
Thanks for the input

WantToGoingTo Fri 10-Mar-17 16:10:40

If you have the money for ivf and are prepared for the emotional physical and financial roller coaster then I would say you are more likely to regret what you don't do than regret what you do do

Littlepic Fri 10-Mar-17 16:21:21

Yes, female sterilisation can be reversed. I can pass on details of a very skilled consultant with good outcomes, if you are interested?

Applesauce29 Fri 10-Mar-17 19:12:16

Five children already - count your blessings! Pregnancy puts a massive strain on the body, even if young and healthy. And IVF can put massive pressure on a relationship, with your partner as well as your existing children who will have to live through the emotional rollercoaster and hormonal episodes. Have you thought of counselling to talk through issues and grieve the child you may never have together? And I don't mean to sound flippant but maybe look to get a pet instead?

If you do go down the IVF route and succeed, please ensure you have a will written with guardians allocated to bring up the child should anything happen to you and your partner. And don't leave the child rearing to your elder kids.

haveacupoftea Sat 11-Mar-17 00:49:13

I think why put yourself through it!

willitbe Sat 11-Mar-17 08:30:29

Broodiness is a horrible thing! I am 49 and still broody for another one. However I try to get rid of the broody feelings, it doesn''t work, so I just have to ignore them. Think about how sleepless nights and toddlers do not mix with teenagers (assuming your 13 year old lives with you).

Have you tried thinking about how you can do other things with your new partner. Alternatively both of you go full steam ahead and see if there is anywhere that will allow you to have IVF. It will cost a fortune and you will possibly be forced to use donor eggs, will that be ok for you both? Will it still feel like your own baby with one of you not genetically related? Have you the finances to fund the IVF and still support your current children? If after all the difficult questions you still feel strongly that it is right for you, then go for it. It might or might not work, but if you don't try then you might regret it. I tried for my forth child that never happened between the ages of 42 and 47, just had 12 miscarriages during that time instead. But I don't regret trying.

HopeInaTube Sat 11-Mar-17 08:59:18

Sterilisation can be reversed but at 47 I think you would be better off doing IVF with donor eggs for the best chance of success

confusedat23 Sat 11-Mar-17 09:56:27

Have you thought about maybe Fostering? I think that would be a better use of your time and you could provide a loving home to children that have never experienced that in life?

WorkingGirlJem Mon 13-Mar-17 10:22:14

Thanks everyone for your input.
Finances aren't a problem fortunately and sleepless nights aren't an issue either as I have way more energy these days than I did when my children were little.
We have thought about fostering but not looked into it properly,which I think might be our next step.

Blazingstar Tue 02-May-17 20:32:27

I had my sterilisation reversed privately in January this year, I'm now 15 weeks pregnant.

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