Rant about TTC

[user1477259453]

Hi, I'm new here. Sorry to start off with a rant but I can't sleep and really need to get this offmy chest. Absolutely furious with my husband. We've been married 2.5 years,but I was training to be a nurse, and we didn't own a house, so we were only ready to try for a baby around March this year. Stopped using contraceptives then, but my husband has been less and less interested in having sex. He's been away a third of that time, so we've had three or four months to try, but it's like getting blood out of a stone, becausr he says it's too "serious"... I'm 30 now, he's 33, all of my friends are having babies, and he knows I'm desperate for one. We are having sex maybe once a week, twice in a good week. He knew not having kids was a deal breaker for me when he got married, and he has always said he wants them too. Knowing his personality, the issue is less that he doesn't want kids, and more that he rejects anything "boring" "routine" or "ritualistic". Right now if I go near him he rejects me, because he "knows" it's just because I want to get pregnant. So angry and lonely right now.

[oatybiscuits]

I kind of get where you're both coming from; if I were you I'd discuss 'not actively trying ' for a while to regain your sex life. Then when you are trying, don't tell him when you think you're ovulating, just take every opportunity. Ttc should be fun (at least in the beginning!) but maybe he's feeling a bit mixed up about sex having more than one purpose. That's all assuming he does still want a family?

[user1477259453]

Thank you so much :). Yeh I think that definitely needs to happen! I don't think he's all wrong, and actually being too regimented will make me very ocd and stressy and won't help things anyway. But I think he could be a bit kinder than witholding sex!