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Nearly 37 and scared won't get pregnant

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Yorkshirelass2016 · 08/10/2016 22:52

Hi, I'm really scared I won't have a baby. I'm nearly 37 in a couple of weeks and had 2 miscarriages so far, had first when I was about 34 when I was about 5 weeks pregnant and second at 12 weeks pregnant last December. The second miscarriage has been the hardest to take, we found out at our first scan the baby had stopped developing and I had to have a medical miscarriage. It took a long time to get over the loss, as it also happened 2 years after my dad died December 2013 so was already a pretty hard time of year. We had a break in last August whilst on holiday and our house was trashed and lost items that belonged to my dad. So had a tough few years, I didn't want to start trying again straight after the last mc as I wanted to get over it all and sort out my life. We have managed to accept and get over all that heart break and we started trying again in July this year. But unfortunately we haven't got pregnant, getting pregnant hasn't ever been a problem before now. So I'm worried I left it too late and I won't ever get pregnant, I find it hard to talk to any family about how I'm feeling without getting upset. I've tried to talk to my partner but he just says it's still early days and make take time. I will feel like such a failure if I can't get pregnant, I've tried to be strong through everything but I don't want to have to deal with more loss and sadness, I guess I just want a little happiness to come my way. I'm just feeling down about it

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Milzilla · 08/10/2016 23:00

I'm sorry for your tough times x
I've had a similarly crappy journey myself.

If you don't fall pg within six months, get gp to refer you to a fertility consultant.

Fingers x you will though.

Reflexology has been great for me - I swear it helped me to fall pg after nine months of nothing (I was about to start ivf).

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