TTC 10 months & fed up.

[MummyBex1985]

Just wish the universe would give me a bloody break.

I'm so sick of doing everything right and nothing happening. I've come to the conclusion that I probably only OV every other cycle (temping and sore boobs only every over month has given me a clue!) so it'll probably take twice as long.

I'm sick of everyone around me being pregnant (most of them accidentally). I'm sick of ONS pregnancy stories and unwanted pregnancies. I'm sick of hearing people who start TTC and fall straight away. And don't even get me started on the Jeremy Kyle crew who have kids and don't know how to look after them

If one more person around me gets PG I think I'll scream at them, it's my turn!!

DH asks regularly if Im PG yet. I'm even starting to snap at him because clearly, I'm not! I'm in yet another 2WW and its all I can think about. I think it's slowly starting to send me insane.

My life is still almost on hold because I can't plan anything in the future in case I do miraculously end up PG! Then the events come around and it's just a reminder of how long it's actually taking...

Feeling really peed off about the whole thing today. I was so optimistic during the first 3 months and now it's starting to suck. I know it takes people a lot longer than it has for us so far, but its so frustrating when there are so many sodding one shot pregnancies around.

Sorry for the rant.

[AskPrayHope]

I read this & thought 'yep!'

I do understand, though only on my 5th going into 6th month TTC.
It's still hard to try & fail & then try harder & still fail.

Unfortunately I have no words of wisdom at all, but just wanted to say you're not on your own.

Wishing you luck

[MegGriffin1]

Ladies I'm feeling for both of you. I've had a scan that revealed probably polycystic ovaries so just feeling low and thinking this is not happening for us. I wish I hadn't had the scan and would live in ignorance. I know that's not the right attitude. Just waiting on blood results that need to be interpreted as I hardly ever have periods or know when I'm ovulating so can't be specific with them. Have you had any tests yet ?

[MummyBex1985]

Thanks both. Just having a crappy day today. 5/6 months is still a long time TTC though isn't it when everyone around you does it so easily!!

Meg I don't think I can have any tests yet - I'm 30 and I think you have to wait until you've been TTC for 12 months. Terrified of going for tests though - I remember having crippling stomach pain a few years back and having no diagnosis, plus I smoked for 12 years so I'm paranoid it's destroyed my eggs! I'm probably being loopy but I'm analysing ANYTHING which could explain why it hasn't happened yet. I've even read today that sweeteners cause infertility so they've gone in the bin now too

The other annoying thing is that I have a very regular cycle and positive OPKs at the same time each month so there's no obvious reason why this isn't happening! Except for the odd cycle where I don't think I OV.

Btw I have two friends with PCOS, both of whom have babies so that diagnosis isn't the end of the world. How long have you been TTC?

[broodypsycho]

Tell your doctor a little white lie - I did. After 8 month u said I'd been trying a year, so he done the 21 day bloods etc. There's no harm in knowing. I've bee privately since then, in 10 weeks I've had a consultation, semen analysis, pelvic scan and hycosy test. 9 months in and I can't cope. I don't ever go on Facebook now can't take any more pregnancy announcements..I'm fed up. My sister law will be knocking out my parents 2nd grandchild soon.. She's 19. I'm 27. A girl who I've known all my life is having her 4th kid to her 4th different dad after 7 month together. I can't cope. How long have you been trying?

[AskPrayHope]

Sorry to hear that meg, I'm very much like an ostrich & try to keep my head in the sand but at least you'll get some answers & can aim in the right direction. My fingers are crossed for you, I hope you get a positive outcome

Lol, just read "I've even read today that sweeteners cause infertility so they've gone in the bin now too" that you posted Bex... I didn't know this what am I supposed to drink now I can't have coke zero?! - I agree, all sweetener products are off limits now!

Yes, I always think I ovulate (hoping I do really!) but it's not happening, so then I think is it my DP? I have looked into private tests, but not made the move yet. Guess I'm holding out just in case...

Yes you're right Broody, perhaps just a little lie wouldn't hurt

[broodypsycho]

They aren't gonna knoe are they? It gets the ball rolling. I would recommend people to do it.

[MegGriffin1]

I have tried for five months but again god forgive me I lied and said a year. I'm 29 so time is on my side but it's worrying me. My GP isn't overly concerned but I've had a period after 67 days that was normal and I was ovulating two weeks before. I has another period after 50 days but it was light and scanty hardly needed to use anything. Since then nothing ! If worse comes to worse we do have money saved to sort the house I will use it to go private.

[MummyBex1985]

Id be tempted with the little white lie but unfortunately my GP took my implant out so they'll know I can't have been trying for 12 months

AskPrayHope it actually isn't all sweeteners - I can still have my fizzy flavoured water, just not the click sweeteners that go in my decaf tea.

Diet Coke has the bad kind though - I just googled. It also has caffeine which is something else to avoid!

One cycle I even went as far as to eat only fertility friendly food... Rather boring and I soon gave that up!

[broodypsycho]

If you go to another doctors they won't know. .when I went private I told them some white lies and we had the consultation and hycosy test and they haven't had anything back from my doctor. They send doctors a copy of the results but that's it. I'd highly recommend anyone to do it

[woodce]

I'm fed up too. I seemed to fall fine with my first but my second is proving more difficult. I know that they say that most people get preggers before 12 months but at 9 cycles its difficult to stay motivated!

I have been doing all of the monitoring, temp, advanced ovulation sticks, CM and even C position and nothing is happening. How can I have all of this BD at the right time and nothing come out of it?

All of my friends are having babies and all I ever get is "when are you going to have another baby?". This is from friends, family AND work colleagues. People that you can't really tell to p1$$ off and mind their own business!

I might lie to my GP to and say that it has been a year. I'm 34 in October and with being on meds for other things than fertility just want to find out if everything is ok. They will probably just say that if I have fallen with one then 'of course I can fall with another'!

Have you guys been to your GP yet with a porky pie about how long you have been trying for? Anyone fallen pregnant yet?

Fingers crossed for you all!

LC x