After discussing it together and deciding it was finally time, I came off the pill a month ago.
Ever since then DH seems scared to even touch me in case I get pregnant. We may as well be sleeping in separate beds and have not DTD for over a month. It has not been easy as I have felt more emotional than usual but I have bitten my tongue. It is obvious he is scared and I am not convinced he wants a child.
On Saturday he said that he doesn't want me to be pregnant for when we go out for his birthday at the beginning of August as I won't be able to drink as it will not be enjoyable.
I snapped!! I told him it was time to grow up and that there will always be an excuse and ME not being able to drink is definitely not one of them. We always said we wanted one child but were in no rush, but after being together 13 years, married for nearly 5, at the age of 37 I think we have waited long enough... As far as I am concerned I don't want to leave it any longer as I am getting older. I said we both have to want it and I don't want to get pregnant, tell him, and him not to be happy about it! He said he does want a child but I am not sure he does...
The last thing I want to do is make him be a father - he will always resent the child and me. Maybe we just shouldn't even bother and I will just go back on the pill.
Mentioned it last night and he agreed we need to talk. Feeling really low. Anyone else having a similar experience?
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Keen to start TTC but DH getting cold feet!
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Margo5 · 07/07/2015 08:22
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