I am all over the place on this so decided that using a mumsnet jury was as good a way as any of trying to make a decision. Me and DH are in our 40s with one son aged 2. If I got pg this cycle it would be a three year age gap. Every month I start to panic in the 2ww that I might be pg and think, 'this is it, I have definitely decided I don't want another.' Yet when my period comes I just feel sad, not relieved as I expected.
My head says no, the chance of a child with additional needs it too great and we have no family support and not enough money to buy in help, both our jobs are insecure. I am tired so much of the time and do not see how I could cope with two. I feel like I want to make major career changes and having two would probably scupper that. Ds probably wouldn't even play with sibling with three year age gap ( I never played with my brother of this age gap) and I wouldn't have as much time to help DS make his own friends if I have another child. We would be able to support ds through uni if he were an only, and maybe even send him to private school or at least afford to move out of our shitty school catchment area with one (which would actually be more expensive than sending him to private school where we live). But despite all these good reasons I just feel sad not to have another. Like there should be another child there. WWYD?
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Singersewing · 22/06/2015 19:36
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