second miscarriage, feeling devastated

[mary1925]

Hello, I'm 38 and recently had another miscarriage, it was very early only 5 weeks, but over one year ago (when I was 36 years old) I had my first miscarriage at 7 weeks. I really thought this time it would work. I feel so hopeless, and really sad that for some reason I get pregnant but it it not staying. I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid 2 years ago but this is under control. I worry constantly about trying to get pregnant. I know stress is not good but I find it very hard. I also blame myself a lot, if I drank alcohol during the not knowing weeks. Any help or advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.

[FattyFishwife]

Im so sorry for your loss ((hugs))

try not to blame yourself for things you did before you knew you were pregnant, im sure many of us have done that over the years. I know its easy to say, but harder to do, but try to lessen your worry and stress, as this will definately have an adverse effect on TTC

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

I would contact this organisation today if you can as they could well help you.

[sizethree]

mary, I'm so sorry. It really is so heartbreaking. One miscarriage is cripplingly difficult to cope with, but two is just horrific.
Do seek some support from the miscarriage associated as the other poster suggested. They are incredible, and helped me a lot through my losses.
There is still lots of hope, and they'll provide you with great information which should offer you sone comfort at this shitty time.
Be gentle on yourself and do reach out to people as you'll be surprised at how many friends / family / colleagues have gone through the same.

[KleineDracheKokosnuss]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. It happened to me too. It was heartbreaking and like you I felt like it was all my fault somehow (but I couldn't quite work out how). Give yourself some time to grieve, and know that it is not uncommon. Also, if you can, get signed off work for a couple of weeks. I went back to work straight after my second, as I didn't really comprehend just how much of my energy it had sapped.

When you feel a little better, try to work out ways to reduce your stress. Exercise out in the sunshine may help you feel calmer, and lift your mood.