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Anyone at the ripe ol' age of 42 thinking about having another baby, but not sure?

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BrainSurgeon Sun 17-May-15 17:09:06

DS is 6 and both him and DH are desperate for a new addition to the family.

I had a horrid birth and lots of feeding problems with DS (he still eats really badly) and most probably an un-diagnosed PND. I didn't want another baby for the life of me.

And now, here I am.... almost 43..... and for some strange reason I'm all of a sudden thinking about it!

Did anyone else have this happen to them, and if so, how did it end?

Newrule Sun 17-May-15 17:12:01

I am 40 going on 41 and would like to try in the next year. I worry that I am too old. Very interested in hearing other people's view on this. I have a toddler son. I am split on whether or not it is fair on him to be an only child.

BrainSurgeon Sun 17-May-15 17:16:05

Newrule I worry about age a lot... I know it sounds bad but I'd rather not have a baby that is not healthy

BrainSurgeon Sun 17-May-15 17:17:53

About the only child matter - I'm not that torn, I'm sure DS will be find on his own. You can never tell if a siblings' relationship is going to be a good one or not.
DH and I have opposed experiences with out siblings, and hence our views about this issue are opposed....

BrainSurgeon Sun 17-May-15 17:18:13

Aargh DS will be fine not find

Newrule Sun 17-May-15 17:22:11

The chances of having a baby is slim although the probability is greater than if you were younger.

I worry about that too. Most of all I worry that we won't be around to be part of weddings, grandchildren, and to generally enjoy important parts of their life.

My mother is in her 70s and my dad in his 80s. They have been there for key milestones. I would have been sad if they were not there. Will I be there for my kids?

Perhaps it's all needless worries isn't it?

BrainSurgeon Sun 17-May-15 17:32:12

Not so needless, lots of children loose their parents too soon and it's so traumatizing. DH lost his mum when he was 15 and it was horrible for him, he's still so sad. When we talk about DS having his or my personality, he says "I wish I could ask my mum how I was at that age" sad

Not helping here am I!

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