only 1 thing on my mind

[MrsH14]

So ladies, how do I stop ttc from taking over my every thought? How do I stop every twinge feeling like it's something it's not? We are on cycle #6 and trying for #1 and I can't stop thinking about it.

[kezaroo]

I'm the same cycle, same attempt and need answer to the exact same question!

My DH says I need to "relax" and "stop worrying / thinking about it too much".

Needless to say, he ain't getting any tonight!

[GlitteryLipgloss1]

I'm in the same situation. I hate not being in control and having it left to fate.

[Orangeisthenewbanana]

Same here! Cycle 6 though trying since last July. I'm better at various points in the month but I am quite honestly sick of thinking about cycle days, lengths, ewcm etc! We are lucky to have a DD but she's 2 and all the mums I met with little ones her age have either had another, or are announcing a pregnancy every 5 minutes (seriously, 2 in the last 3 days )

Wish I could switch my brain off it for a bit!

[GlitteryLipgloss1]

I hear ya. The facebook announcements suck. Although I am really happy for them, it starts to sting.

If I had a penny for everytime someone said 'relax...it'll happen, dont obsess over it, you wont conceive if you stress!' I just want to punch them now.

And it's always people who have had/got kids to tell me! Or I get the sleepless night, teething, tiredness stories - I KNOW what I am in for - and I cant wait!!!! I WANT IT TO HAPPEN, I want to feel and look like shit, I want to be up every hour in the night, I want to let my body get fat, saggy, swollen, I want my body to do, what it was made to do. I want to be a mother! I have waited so long. I want to hold my little one, see there face after imagining it for years, and now you are telling me to WAIT SOME MORE. arggghhhhh!

and breathe!
sorry.

[Southy84]

I don't think you can totally stop thinking about ttc, I've tried for nearly two years to be cool and stop thinking about it... It hasn't worked! What's made it worse is I got married last November so now I'm getting the constant "soooo when are you going to have a baby"??!! I actually want to scream 'well actually we've been trying and it's not happening' (but I don't want anyone to know that we've not had any luck, don't really want the pitying looks/reassuring comments) and yes orangeisthenewbanana there's always someone announcing a new pregnancy which doesn't help, especially when they seem to blink and they're pregnant... I've just joined MN and actually finding it's helping to read others stories and knowing that I'm not alone. I'm just trying so hard to be positive and relax...

[Glomerulus]

Same cycle OP and I know exactly what you mean. We only told a few close friends that we're TTC and the "helpful advice" from couples who conceived straight away is starting to grate a little.

I don't know how to stop thinking about it in general, but I have found it helps to keep a few things planned in month to month, a night out, a weekend away, etc. just little things that make the monthly disappointment a bit easier.

[NoArmaniNoPunani]

I'm the same, 2WW number 5, TTC first baby. Must stop looking at baby clothes

[Southy84]

That's a great idea glomerulus, planning things in to your month to think about other than that bfp... May start doing that- try to focus on a countdown to something else!

[MrsH14]

its nice to be able to talk about it. I've only just joined but feel better for doing so. Facebook announcements are on a high at the moment as is work. 1 baby born on Saturday and 2 more due next month. Feels like it's everyone else but us. I even deleted someone on Saturday after Her announcement. To be fair she was only a friend of a friend but it still got to me. We have stuff planned that we are looking forward to but it doesn't stop my brain going round and round over the same stuff.

[Southy84]

Facebook is definitely an evil place at the moment! i can feel myself saying in my head 'oh yay another one' but I do try to think about all the positives in my life to make me smile