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second child - is this normal

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PiSeas Sun 28-Dec-14 21:17:19

Dh and I have been TTC for the last two months. I'm nearly 36 so apparently the odds are not in my favour.
First month was BFN. I can't test yet for baby 2 as it's too early.
We're on second cycle and now I'm petrified. What if I don't love second DC as much? I love DS more than I can breathe. Did anyone else feel the same? I thought I wanted another baby but I'm so afraid it won't have a place in my heart. Did anyone feel the same?
I want another baby but would I love it immediately?
I hope I've made sense and not been too clunky

PiSeas Sun 28-Dec-14 22:44:14

No on around?

hanflan Mon 29-Dec-14 11:05:08

Hi there! No experience with this myself (am pregnant with my first!) but my friends have had the same fears. How can they love anyone as much as they love their first child? But the best way they have described it to me is that you don't have to make room in your heart for another child, your heart grows with extra love. Even if that doesn't seem possible, it will! You will love all of your children with all of your heart smile

spamanderson Mon 29-Dec-14 14:13:59

Awww. Don't worry, you will love your dc2 just as much! My DM was petrified when I was preg with dc2 that she wouldn't love her as much as dd1. All unfounded obviously as we all adore the 2nd as much as the first and we're now ttcing #3. You'll never run out of love to give smile

spinduchess Mon 29-Dec-14 14:19:24

Your love for your second DC doesn't come out of DC1's pot.

You get a whole new pot.

PiSeas Mon 29-Dec-14 17:09:06

Thank you so much. My DH said the same but I don't listen to him grin
I know I'm being slightly paranoid. I know logically it makes sense but it just seemed impossible to think of having as much to give the second time round.
Right, let's hope I get no. 2 grin

Believe me you will love that second child the moment you conceive. I lost our second at 11 weeks pg and found I already loved him/her unconditionally. Like the others said its a whole knew barrel of love!!! smile fingers crossed for a BFP very soon

ScaryMartian Tue 30-Dec-14 09:02:12

Love the analogy of the whole new pot.

Mooley flowers flowers x

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