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TTC almost 2 years baby #2 don't know how much longer I can do this!

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BobsyBoo Sun 14-Dec-14 11:34:24


In January we will have hit the 2 year mark of TTC #2, I know I'm very lucky to have my DD but it was always important that she has a sibling & when I conceived her we weren't TTC so never thought it would take so long to conceive our second. I'm currently on 2dpo & AF due between Xmas & New Year with the pre-AF spotting due next Sunday which means I'll know one way or the other just in time for Christmas!

I'm so down about it all & deep down I know I should give up but can't quite bring myself to! I've tried most different things to help but nothing has worked. My GP has done some tests but everything has come back ok, she won't do anything as she says its down to my age, I'm 38 was 36 when we started TTC. Everyone who had their first same time as me have had a second, some even a third & now were on people who had their first 2 years after me are pg with second & one had even had their second! I'm so down hearted and keep thinking that its been so long that it won't happen now.

iniquity Mon 15-Dec-14 19:39:09

Hi Bobsy boo. I know it has been tough for you. Let's hope 2015 is the year for us

Orangeisthenewbanana Mon 15-Dec-14 19:44:28

I'm so sorry to hear you've had such a tough time. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you sad I would go back to your GP and push for a fertility specialist referral. 38 is certainly not too old to still have a fairly decent chance at conceiving. If she won't do it, see a different GP. It is not for her to decide that nothing can be done. You need to be properly investigated before anyone can even consider implying that! For your own peace of mind too - I would want to know that I had tried absolutely everything I could.

Sending you unmumsnetty hugs and flowers and I really hope you can get your DC2.

PossumPoo Mon 15-Dec-14 19:55:11

We are 12 months in to ttc dc2. DD came along so easily that I too get a bit down thinking dc2 may never happen.

I've had 2 mc in the 12 months so I also feel even if I get pregnant I know there's still a long way to go. At my last mc I asked them to write a letter recommending rcm investigations because of my age and because I knew my gp wouldn't do anything if I asked.

It's shit flowers

I'm also due in 3 days and very emotional this month!

LuckyAugust Mon 15-Dec-14 20:29:15

Don't give up. After falling pregnant with ds1 the first month I honestly didn't expect a problem when we started to try for another child. 18 long emotional months later I got my bfp. I knew we wanted a third child and we started trying when ds2 was 5 months, expecting it to take a while again. Got my bfp the next month. Unfortunately that pregnancy didn't work out but again I fell pregnant really easily (currently 32 weeks). Its so weird how it works sometimes and I don't know why it took so long second time around but I remember the frustration and tears every month. I used to use the fertility friend app and opks and not long before ds2 was conceived I started drinking grapefruit juice. I'd read some research on this and along with a millon other things thought I'd give it a try. I don't know for sure if it did help but when we started trying for dc3 I started drinking it again. Wishing you lots of luck x

BobsyBoo Mon 15-Dec-14 23:23:04

Thanks for all your lovely comments ladies flowers

I can't imagine what it must be like to go through an mc & I know I'm lucky that it hasn't happened to me.

Orange I think in the New Year it's time to get my doctors surgery & see a different doctor & hopefully get referred. You're right I do need to be sure I've tried everything one of my biggest worries is having regrets.

I'm currently on 3dpo but I've no reason to think this month would be different to any other! AF is due on Boxing Day but I always start spotting in 9dpo so that'll be Sunday. I do use FF & use OPK's but this cycle we missed DTD on the vital day I think as OH was too tired, although we did DTD in my fertile window & ov day.

Congratulations LuckyAugust. It can't hurt to try grapefruit juice I've tried just about everything else. That's what I'm like now tears & tantrums every month, each month that little bit worse! It is so weird that after falling pregnant without trying when I try for a second it just doesn't happen.

Good luck Possum and iniquity


allchatnicknamesgone Tue 16-Dec-14 15:10:44

I'm around 18/19months trying for DD2. DD1 is 6 and a half.
Secondary infertility apparently.
Had failed ivf in Oct.
Miraculously fell preg naturally in Nov! Sadly lost is early which has been the cruellest twist of fate ever.
It will happen so I don't think you should give up. I know you'd have to pay, but is ivf an option if you feel the clicking clock is getting louder?x

BobsyBoo Tue 16-Dec-14 23:00:41

Sorry about your MC allchat. I think it's secondary infertility with me too. Unfortunately IVF is not an option for us there's no way we can stretch to it. X

allchatnicknamesgone Thu 18-Dec-14 18:39:24

Thank you Bobsyboo. Well I'm obviously not infertile, hence the mc but it just seems to take so much longer for some people. It is the most agonising frustrating thing in the world.
Good luck for you. x
Ps I have started acupuncture and had only had 2 sessions when I fell pregnant. funny coincidence….

NewEraNewMindset Thu 18-Dec-14 18:42:54

Hugs xxx

BobsyBoo Thu 18-Dec-14 18:58:56

allchat It does seem unfair that it takes so long for some of us. Yes it sure is. I've been reading about acupuncture on another thread that I'm on and I'm really tempted to give it a go.

Thanks and you too. x

Thanks New xxx

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