Trying not to get my hopes up...

[liltoni83]

Hi all, i am new to mumsnet so any help, advice, confidence is really appreciated.

I have been trying to conceive with my partner for about 12 months now. I am 31 and have been pregnant once before but it was an unsuccessful pregnancy (about 5 years ago). My cycle is usually 28/30 days apart and i am now on day 41 since the first day of my last period.

I have had cramps for 3 days with lower back pain, the kind of thing i usually experience when i am actually menstruating. I have also been experiencing what can only be described as a slight butterfly feeling in my stomach for 2 days also and a slight change in the taste in my mouth. I have also experienced a slight increase in my normal discharge.

I have done 2 tests, both negative.

I don't want to get my hopes up. When i found out i was pregnant before i had no symptoms for about 7 weeks and then sickness kicked in after week 8.

I don't want to get my hopes up and i am seeing my nurse this evening.

I wondered if anyone else had experienced the same thing?

[Samantha9136]

Hi there it took a year to conceive my second child. I had done so many tests during that year all negative. I got to the point where I didn't know if I was imagining symptoms - totally drove me crazy. In the twelfth month I refused to do a test until I was almost two weeks late and fortunately it was positive. I know some of your feelings and hope for the best for you. Hope all goes well with your nurse. Do let us know how you get on.

[liltoni83]

Thanks for your reply Samantha9136

The nurse basically told me to just wait longer (helpful) and to do another test in a weeks time if my period still didnt come.

She said if it did arrive though that she was going to send me for an ovulation test. They tell you not to stress as its not good but all the not knowing and anxiety is too much to take sometimes ha!

I have decided not to do anymore tests now as im doing my own head in everytime i see a negative result. x

[Samantha9136]

Hi there - oh I know that feeling. It is very difficult not to worry & dream for something you want/need so much. I can think of a number of bad times in my life but that time longing for a child is deffo up there with the worst. It's out of your control to certain extent - just got to keep trying & try to go back to basics - make it about love not conception. We had some tests through the gp - for my husbands test we were not supposed to have intercourse for a week prior to his test but the night before we couldn't stop ourselves. Needless to say his test came back inconclusive but we did conceive. I so hope for the best for you. Keep me posted on how you get on if you'd like to. Take care.