Just looking for some advice...I met up with one of my best and oldest friends this evening for a meal and drinks. She has been ttc no1 for just over a year. She has pcos but apart from that there are no other major issues, and the specialists she is seeings are confident she will conceive with the aid of fertility medication in time. Im not trying to down play her situation - just to set the scene. I know it must be horrendously stressful and soul destroying for her...my heart breaks for her at the moment because is the lovliest person I know and would make a brilliant Mum.
I never ever ask anything about her treatment unless she brings it up, because I know she might just want to escape thinking about it, so I always let her bring it up. I always subtly let her know that I am here for her though, especially as I know that apart from close family, I am one of only 3 friends who know.
She brought the subject up tonight and updated me on the situation etc, and the subject followed of when do I think I will have my next one. Now I know this could be her preparing herself so she isn't upset by any baby news, but I think she was genuinely asking as a friend. So I admitted that we have just started ttc number 2. She seemed really happy, and the conversation eventually moved on, but not long after our meal, she said she felt sick and was going to go home.
I am now worrying that I upset her by telling her our plans and that I have done the wrong thing. If I'm honest, if I hadn't known that she was ttc, I probably would have dodged the question, but I suppose I thought that it would be nice to be able to chat if we are both ttc. Now I'm worried that I was being insenstive. I just don't know. It's not like it is guaranteed to be a straightforward journey for me...dd was a surprise, but her birth was very difficult, I've had quite a lot of gynae issues since, was breastfeeding until recently, and have been told since I had her that I have a uterine fibroid. So it may not be a quick conception for me.
Did I do the wrong thing? And how do I deal with the fact that I am lucky enough to have one small child myself, whilst being supportive of the fact that she is still waiting to have number one? I feel like she must be thinking "its ok for you". Thanks
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Would you tell a friend who was having trouble conceiving that you are ttc no2?
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Shocktothesystem · 29/03/2014 23:35
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