My close friend is having IVF at the moment, and I am 8 weeks pg. She's a very dear friend, and I am worrying a lot about doing the right thing.
This is her second round of IVF and age means there won't be many more. Her first resulted in a BFP but sadly miscarried before 12 weeks. During her first attempt, we met up a lot and I was able to support her (I had experienced similar symptoms of threatened miscarriage to her in my first pg, only in her case they went on to end in miscarriage).
This time, I've been texting her my support but I've almost been avoiding meeting up because of my own pg - it feels no time to tell her about it but duplicitous not to tell her given we are discussing her IVF. This is making me feel like a s* friend. It's difficult because we're at the age where so many friends have kids or are pregnant, so there isn't like there's an army of people in a similar situation.
I'm longing for this to work for her, but already worrying about what happens if it doesn't, and she then has to hear about my pregnancy in the immediate aftermath (obviously my current pg may not even been viable - who knows?).
If you've been through this yourself before, do you think it is the right thing for me to be a little distant during this, because of me being pregnant?
And should I just hold off telling her as long as possible? Even if IVF works I think the first trimester will be excruciating given last time.
Sorry for long-winded message.
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crazyhead · 26/03/2013 10:43
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