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Yet another friend pregnant..whist we're STILL ttc

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jaffacakehips · 05/10/2012 14:03

That's it really

Yet another friend has told me today she's having another baby (DC3). That's 2 in a week. Whist naturally I'm utterly delighted for them both. I can't help wondering bloody hell when will it be me God how horrid am I? don't answer that

I just feel our lives have been put onto a loop of TTC. I know we are so lucky, we already have a wonderful DD. It also doesn't help that everyone keeps asking us when DD will be getting a sibling. I'm SODDING trying, get off my case and stop asking me. Just because I've been able to have one DC doesn't mean I can just look at DH and get knocked up.

Rant over, sorry.

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jaffacakehips · 05/10/2012 14:04

God what a really self centered post.

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Lottapianos · 05/10/2012 14:05

You don't sound horrid in the slightest. Fertility and conception issues are so very painful for all sorts of reasons and I do wish people would shove their noses somewhere else instead of needling people about when they are going to produce a/nother child.

I hope you get good news soon

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jaffacakehips · 05/10/2012 17:57

Thank you lotta

If its not were having a baby, it's we've had a baby!

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HaveALittleFaith · 05/10/2012 18:30

(from what I've learned on MN) secondary infertility is not easier/worse than primary, it's just different and heart breaking in a different way. We had primary infertility and comments along the lines of when are you starting a family then?! were pretty are to bear but I imagine people asking about siblings is tough and probably more frequent as their peers get siblings!

It's ok to vent, that's what MN is here for! I would maybe say to those who ask 'Ah it's not always quite that simple is it?'. That shut most people up when we were struggling!

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jennimoo · 06/10/2012 06:26

We're ttc dc2 and got pg 1st cycle last time. It's only 4 months now but I'm getting the same, especially from my Mum.
At DDs 2nd birthday party last weekend she pointed to my friends with bumps and asked on front of the guests when I'm having another. Could have screamed!

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jaffacakehips · 06/10/2012 14:14

Have you have hit the nail on the head. Just because you've had one baby doesn't mean you can have another (easily) one. It either seems to be friends who don't have children or family members that comment.

Jen We hit DD on my 1st cycle which was quite a shock, lovely but

Its tough..when your trying and you know it's not happening and EVERYONE feels the bloody need to comment.