hypnotherapy to help conceive

[francohoops]

Hi

I'm considering starting hypnotherapy. We are trying for a 2nd baby, problem is I get very anxious each month around ovulation time and things don't happen as they are supposed to. The rest of the month is fine, so it's not so much a physical problem.

Is it worth giving hypnotherapy a go?

Can anyone recommend a good hypnotherapist around Hertfordshire, Barnet, or Enfield area?

Thanks
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[Frontpaw]

I can't PM on the iPad grrrrrrrr.

bsch.org.uk/kiely/. She specialises in this area and has developed her own programme.

[francohoops]

Thanks. Do you know anyone who has used her?

[Bunbaker]

Have you tried reflexology?

[thomasbodley]

I downloaded fertility hypnotherapy tracks from Tina Taylor and Hypnosis Downloads and have been listening to them every day on my iPod. They send me to sleep but even if that's all they're doing, I'm happy.

[Frontpaw]

I know her as she was one of my tutors. I think she also has a CD available on her website.

[MagnumIcecreamAddict]

I used natal hypnotherapy for labour with my DS and was really delighted and surprised by how well it worked.
We've been TTC for 3/4 months now and i bought this CD from the same range
I've listened to it 3 or 4 times only, as with a toddler DS I just don't seem to find the time, but it is very relaxing when I do listen to it and really should try to use it more.
I think in the difficult times, particularly the 2WW, it can be very helpful.
It's not very expensive, so maybe worth a go?

[legoballoon]

Can't you just have a couple of glasses of wine, try to stop thinking of conception and just enjoy the process . When we were TTC DS1 I conceived the month we'd had a nice dinner, a bottle of white, and an early night.

As conception relies upon an egg meeting a sperm in the right conditions, I don't see how hypnotising yourself can aid conception. Just make sure you know when you're at your most fertile (//www.fertilityfriend.com has loads of detailed explanations) and don't set yourself deadlines.

And FWIW I'm not totally cynical about hypno therapy in general - am sure that in quitting smoking, even helping you stay calm in childbirth etc. it has it's place. I just think that the mechanics of conceiving a child are beyond what your mind can help with.

[clickingtock]

Actually I think the mind can play a surprisingly large part in conception and certainly if you're anxious it will be harder to be 'open' to conception and sex - I'm presuming you find it painful or hard to perform.

Are you anxious about a second pregnancy and childbirth again, do you think - but this is submerged beneath a more immediate anxiety around conception...? Just a thought.

Alternatively try to ditch your awareness of cycle dates and just aim to have sex every 2-3 days regardless. Much easier said than done, of course.

I wish I could recommend someone in your area, but don't know anyone. I would also recommend reiki or reflexology. Plus a lovely night out with your OH and a tipple or two, why not?

Good luck.

[lollypopsicle]

Fwiw, I also think your mind can impact on your ability to conceive.
I can't offer any recommendations but I have used hypnotherapy to relax during exam times (as i used to get very stressed) and found it very beneficial. A good hypnotherapist will help you get to the root of your anxiety, as an earlier poster was suggesting you should do. Good luck

[francohoops]

Thanks for your replies. Just to clear one thing up, my wife is not anxious about the childbrith thing, it's just that I get wound up about having to perform at certain times of the month. I can't get the dates out of my mind and feel very frustrated if things don't go to plan.

I've given up the drink over the last few weeks, but maybe a few glasses of wine may help. We conceived our son in 2 months so we expected things to happen quicker this time (around 7 months).

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[clickingtock]

Sorry - wrong end of stick. Yes - a bit of wine would probably help but also do try a relaxation CD of some sort.

Is there a way to be less aware of where you are both at in the cycle so less pressure?

I would certainly not drink much but just if it helps loosen you up. We conceived our DS in 2 months too. Well over a year of trying for no.2 but we have some other issues.

Good luck.

[clickingtock]

Oh and everyone swears by holidays but it hasn't worked for us.

[Frontpaw]

Performance anxiery... quite common! Yes, the mind does have a nasty habit of throwing a spanner in the works, and Maureen told me that she has a good success rate. If you have had a checkup from a doctor (both parents) and there is no physical reason why you cannot conceive (and you are happy that their prognosis is correct) then consider mental, emotional or to the relationship issues.

A friend of mine had the 'holiday' thing work. They had gone through rounds of IVF and it looked like it just wouldnt work. I was training then and joked with her that when she was away on holiday, then she would conceive as her baby wanted to be an Indian baby and not an English one (she is Indian). She did get pregnant. Probably due to the fact that they were away from the in-laws (living with them at the time) and actually had some private time together when they could be relaxed.

[nowflourish]

Old and probably unwatched this thread, however, hypnotherapy is effective for fertility problems. This is simply because, as most people who have had fertility trouble know, anxiety and worry have an effect on the body. Most peole know someone who got pregnant when they'd given up hope of conception and/or adopted instead. The monthly hope and despair is a rollercoaster and anything that helps the stress response is positive for increasing chances where there isn't a known physical reason why you can't conceive (and there are a lot of people in that boat).