My DP's sister is unable to conceive naturally due to a genetic condition which means she has no ovaries. She married her partner of 6 years last year and although they were resigned to no children, they have started to reconsider that decision and look at their options. There is a possibility of them getting up to 3 IVF cycles on the NHS. They would need an egg donor, and would prefer it to be a known donor, as they are very keen on the donor playing a part in the child's life. As it happens, I'm a 27 YO lesbian who has (currently) very little interest in having my own biological children, and young enough for that not really to be something I have to decide on now. I have DD 14 from DP's previous relationship who I have raised since she was 5 and I see her as my own.
It's very much in early planning stages and I am very well aware that at any point in the process, during the screening all manner of things could be raised that could make me, or them, realise that it's not for them/me. I have been thinking a lot about the concept of having a child in the world that's 'me' but not mine, and whilst I am sure if I was broody or wanted my own children badly, it would be a different matter, but at the present it really doesn't bother me. It's worth saying that I wouldn't be saying the same for an unknown donation - it's only because it's them, i'm not flippant about it.
I'm determined not to do too much 'google bashing' about the subject as I know what I'm like - i'll find some horror story page about how someone died etc. I DO know that this is a reality - that there are horrible side effects and health issues that can be caused by the donation process. But I really want to hear about these from the medical profession rather than some scary anti-donation blog. Or at the very least from someone who has actually gone through the process.
I'm not sure really what I'm after by this post - there's not many neutral people I can talk to about it in my life, they are either DPs family or my family, and biased.
Are there any members who are willing to share their experiences? Any particular things that could stop me being a donor? I don't drink, or smoke, I'm overweight (but not badly). My family have a history of ovarian cysts (my mother had to have some removed surgically and I do get some considerable ovulation pain), which I've heard can be exacerbated by the donation process. We also have a history of thyroid problems. Other than that, I don't think we're prone to anything else. I'd be interested to know what can stop you being a donor, and also, does it affect your ability to conceive naturally in later life?
Any experience/input from other people I'd appreciate!
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notjustme · 22/09/2011 22:51
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