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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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donor Ivf

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nannyjayne · 05/10/2003 20:19

My husband and I are desperate to have a baby and we need to have donor Ivf. There is a huge shortage of donors. Our hope is to make women more aware of egg donating. If you are aged between 21 and 35 and are interested in becoming an egg donor or you would be interested in egg sharing (receiving standard IVF at a significantly reduced cost), please contact the Lister hospital assisted conception unit 0800 8497036 quoting reference x0644738
Thank you for taking time to read this.

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codswallop · 05/10/2003 20:22

Is this an advert?

nannyjayne · 05/10/2003 20:26

No this is not an advert,it's my first time here and I thought someone might be able to help not only us but other people in our situation.

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codswallop · 05/10/2003 20:27

Sorry

mottie · 05/10/2003 20:29

Hi nanny jayne
How long have you been waiting for treatment?

nannyjayne · 05/10/2003 20:33

That's ok it's quite hard to let people know about egg donation without it sounding like an advert. So many couples are needing egg donors but you hardly ever hear about it. The waiting list is 18 months so we need more women to know about it

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nannyjayne · 05/10/2003 20:36

We have been waiting for nearly 3 years. The hospital we were with put us on the wrong waiting list and just as we got to the top we recieved a letter informing us that we were taken off the list. Needless to say we changed hospitals and we have been on the new list 10 months.

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mottie · 05/10/2003 20:40

I hope that someone here can help you unfortunately I am 38 so am too old. (makes me feel ancient) I have a friend in the same situation as you she has been waiting several years to have a baby I can only imagine what it must be like to want a baby and not be able to have one. Good luck with everything.

nannyjayne · 05/10/2003 20:48

Thank you for your message and I hope your friend succeeds. It is so important to have really good friends. I couldn't cope without my best friend she is like a sister to me

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mottie · 06/10/2003 17:49

I know how you must be feeling n/jayne I had to wait several years before I became pregnant it was the worst feeling and friends who had children could only simpathise. I think waiting for a donor egg must be very stressful I hope someone can help you. It must be a rewarding feeling to know you can help a couple have a baby.

aloha · 06/10/2003 18:36

I think if you were prepared to go public you would probably find a donor, but I would understand if you didn't. I'm a journalist but i'm NOT looking for a story (honest!), just that another poster on Mumsnet did just that - appealed in a newspaper for a donor - and got one very quickly, I believe.
Good luck.

mimsmum · 06/10/2003 18:54

Nannyjayne - I had a donor IVF cycle to get DD but was very lucky to have a sister prepared to help, so am not much use in helping you to find a donor - I asume you've asked all your friends and family already. I realise how lucky I was to have my sister and really wish I could help others in this situation. Think Aloha's point about going public is a good one, if you can bear it.

sunchowder · 06/10/2003 19:27

Nannyjayne--my eggs are much too old for your too, I am currently 46, or I would gladly give you several. The most perfect young and delicious eggs are coming your way. Aloha had some wise words below also. I wish you all of the best.

nannyjayne · 06/10/2003 21:20

Mimsmum how did you find the IVF? did it make you feel ill? and did it work first time. We have been told it has a 70% failure rate so I try to keep my feet on the ground. However when you have been waiting a long while you tend to grasp at anything.

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nannyjayne · 06/10/2003 21:22

sunchowder thank you for your kind words and hopefully your right.

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WSM · 06/10/2003 21:31

I'm in my early 20's and so I fall perfectly into that age bracket. I have a beautiful healthy 14 month old daughter and am a stepmum to 2 fab boys aged 9 & 11. I'd like to find out more about egg donation with a view to taking it further (subject to discussion with DH once I know exactly what is involved etc). Am I right in thinking that I would be given hormone injections in order for me to produce a 'bumper batch' of eggs in one monthly cycle as opposed to just the one ? Would I donate just the once or is it expected that I will continue to donate until the couple conceive ? What is the legal stance on egg donation (is there any way that the child can be traced back to my egg) ?

nannyjayne · 06/10/2003 21:45

Hi wsm yes you would have hormonal injections but would be monitered very carefully. It is entirely up to the individual how many times you do it and no you don't have to keep going until the couple conceive. The egg donation is annymous only the hospital know who your eggs went to. They keep it totally annymous and at the current time children concieved in this way cannot trace their genetic parent. If you decide to find out more contact the Lister and they will see you with no obligations and you can ask all the questions you need to.

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WSM · 06/10/2003 21:46

Thanks nannyjane, I'll give them a call.

nannyjayne · 06/10/2003 21:50

no, thank you wsm just even for thinking about it.

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mimsmum · 08/10/2003 12:53

Nannyjayne - Sorry only just read your message, computer has been down for two days. Am happy to chat about IVF, and if you want to contact me direct then please do on the contact a user thingy. DD was born after 6 goes of IVF (please don't panic, 5 of them were not donor cycles!!) The donor cycle gave me 2 goes, the first go resulted in a pg that I lost at 8 weeks. The frozen embryo "go" is now asleep upstairs in her cot aged 16 months!!

mimsmum · 08/10/2003 12:55

Nannyjayne - Sorry only just read your message, computer has been down for two days. Am happy to chat about IVF, and if you want to contact me direct then please do on the contact a user thingy. DD was born after 6 goes of IVF (please don't panic, 5 of them were not donor cycles!!) The donor cycle gave me 2 goes, the first go resulted in a pg that I lost at 8 weeks. The frozen embryo "go" is now asleep upstairs in her cot aged 16 months!!

miriamw · 08/10/2003 20:04

Nannyjane, wishing you all the best in your search for a donor. I had 4 IVF attempts at the Lister (resulting in 2dss), and found them to be very good, if slightly impersonal due to the number of treatments taking place. The embryologists are great though, and you get to see the embryos on a tv screen before transfer. The Lister also keep a lot of statistics regarding ages and success rates - I was told I had odds of around 40-50%. I conceived ds1 on 3rd attempt, ds2 on 4th.

nannyjayne · 08/10/2003 22:33

Hi mimsmum once I understand how to use the web site I would love to contact you. Sometimes I feel so alone as two of my friends who have had IVF don't sem to be around. One of them had six attempts to have a second baby but finally gave up. I can understand this, having me as a friend must bring it all back. I am lucky though I do have supportive friends.

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nannyjayne · 08/10/2003 22:34

Hi mimsmum once I understand how to use the web site I would love to contact you. Sometimes I feel so alone as two of my friends who have had IVF don't sem to be around. One of them had six attempts to have a second baby but finally gave up. I can understand this, having me as a friend must bring it all back. I am lucky though I do have supportive friends.

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nannyjayne · 08/10/2003 22:34

Hi mimsmum once I understand how to use the web site I would love to contact you. Sometimes I feel so alone as two of my friends who have had IVF don't sem to be around. One of them had six attempts to have a second baby but finally gave up. I can understand this, having me as a friend must bring it all back. I am lucky though I do have supportive friends.

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nannyjayne · 08/10/2003 22:35

Hi mimsmum once I understand how to use the web site I would love to contact you. Sometimes I feel so alone as two of my friends who have had IVF don't sem to be around. One of them had six attempts to have a second baby but finally gave up. I can understand this, having me as a friend must bring it all back. I am lucky though I do have supportive friends.

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