I'm a long time lurker on the conception thread always reading some wonderful advice and support but now I'm in need myself and wonder if you could help me.
Have been TTC DC2 for 20 months after asking DH for 18 months previously to start to TTC. He didn't want another dc at all but following a near fatal accident, changed his mind and realised it would be wonderful if it happened.
We live hundreds of miles from any family and we are a little isolated in location so it would be wonderful for DD, plus it is difficult for me to accept having an only child,( I am very close to my brother and sister) especially as she is on her own so much of the time, and no where near cousins.
The problem now is that every month I'm not pregnant,( Im 43) I get upset and feel tearful and sad, my dh gets really annoyed with me.
I'm told to get a grip, there are people with much worse problems( he is totally right I know) and I'm told he should be able to come home after work to a happy home with no problems.(dinner is always on the table, house cosy and I work too)
Ive tried to sit down with dh and talk about how this makes me feel when he says this. I've asked him to give me a hug instead, say don't worry, we'll try again, and then I will feel better and my sad feeling will last 10 minutes. This has never yet happened.
I totally realise how lucky I am to have dd and am not a depressed sort of person but I am finding this TTC difficult and its making me quite emotional.
However he refuses to hug me and develops a
'self preservation' attitude which involves becoming very cold and distant with me. This can last hours or even a day or two.
Hence, I'm sad as I'm not pregnant and extra sad as I feel totally alone in my marriage at a time when a little support could change everything.
Am I asking too much of my husband, to support me with just a hug and a few nice words? To be honest, I'm getting really quite down about the lack of support from him, and am worried to go home if I'm feeling sad as I know this will lead to the 'cold treatment' from him and I just can't bear it anymore.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, any thoughts gratefully received.
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lovesmountains · 14/12/2010 21:34
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