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nephew has been diagnosed with seconday cancer of the liver

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore Thu 28-Aug-08 01:38:26

he is nine years old and has only just gotten over the last bout <he had part of his pancreas and gall bladder removed> dh has just told me. i have spent the last hour hugging him while he cried.

he is heartbroken as am i and i cant even imgaine what sil and bil are going through sad

poor boy. they havent told him yet but obvioulsy they are going to have to.

any experinces of this with postive outcomes? plus how do i help dh through this? i dont think he will cope. he is understandably devasted sad i cant really get my head around it ad am trying to stay positive but dh is finding it difficult sad

Saturn74 Thu 28-Aug-08 01:43:44

I haven't any experiences to share, SheSells, but wanted to post to say that I am sending you positive vibes at this difficult time.

Does your nephew live near you - will DH be able to visit him?

Thinking of you all.

nappyaddict Thu 28-Aug-08 01:45:27

sending lots of positive vibes your way

charleymouse Thu 28-Aug-08 01:45:32

So sorry Shesells, I'm afraid I have no experience just felt I needed to reply, I think just being there for dh and letting him let it all out. Thinking of you and praying for a positive outcome for your nephew.

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore Thu 28-Aug-08 01:46:21

yes he is going tommorrow. he is already talking about taking to see his fave footy team play. they went to see manu last time and stayed overnight.

i just dont know what to think or how to help him. thank you for you message x

1dilemma Thu 28-Aug-08 02:05:32

poor wee lad

there will be others on here who know of those organisations that specialise in organising trips for seriously unwell children (I'm sorry my internet is broken so google hasn't come up with names for me)

thinking of you all especially your dn

giraffescantdancethetango Thu 28-Aug-08 02:13:11

sorry to hear this. x

McDreamy Thu 28-Aug-08 06:19:43

sad so sorry, your poor family, what devastating news sad

SheikYerbouti Thu 28-Aug-08 06:45:18

Poor little lamb sad

I have no advice, but couldn't ignore.

Buda Thu 28-Aug-08 06:48:38

Oh God how awful.

I too have no advice but like Sheik couldn't ignore.


Slouchy Thu 28-Aug-08 07:25:23

Oh how very terrible. poor little soul.

herbietea Thu 28-Aug-08 07:50:54

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SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore Thu 28-Aug-08 10:40:58

thanks herbie a smililar thing happened to my aunt. she had primary liver cancer as was asked if she wanted to give up fighting as it seemed hopeless. the doctors thought that chemo would prolong her life but not save her. that was three years ago and she is fine. just like your gran her liver is back to the same size.

also we have a friend who has terminal cancer. it started in her breast and spread to her bones. she was told that with new pills she would be lucky to see x mas. she is still going strong to this day. she is going to lose the fight but no time soon. this is what im am trying to tell dh. medicine has moved on so much since he lost his father. there is more that they can do now.

i dont know how dh is going to get through this if he cant stay positive. dh says that sil just feels numb and it hasnt sunk in yet. we dont know if they have discussed treatment options yet. but i know that they raised a lot of money for him last time he had this so that he could get private treatment and advise from specialists in america if he needed it. he still has some of that money left to use if he needs to. as he had mainly nhs treatment last time, with just a phonecall from america.

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore Thu 28-Aug-08 14:31:03

dh has phoned sil. nephew does know about it and was crying when he found out but being that he is onky 9 he is okay today back to fighting with his sister. he understands what it means and what could happen. dh seems more positive now and told sil that we just need to pray like last time.

they are going on saturady to discuss what the best course of treatment will be. hopefully it will be treatable. i dont know how we will all bear it if it is not sad

poor little boy sad

AvenaLife Thu 28-Aug-08 14:34:35

sad They will look after him. I have a family friend, her son has fought leukemia three times, he's clear now.

Big hug for you aswell.

Pinkchampagne Thu 28-Aug-08 14:44:59

How awful. Poor little boy.sad Thinking of you all.

suedonim Thu 28-Aug-08 14:52:17

Nine years old? That's so sad, poor little chap. sad I'm probably teaching grannies to suck eggs here but has your family been in touch with Clic Sargent? A friend of mine does voluntary work with them and they seem like an amazing outfit.

kee27 Sun 31-Aug-08 00:26:34

i want to wish him al the best in getting better my aunit is being treated for caner at the mo so sort of know how u feel hun postive vibes to him x x x x x x x xall the best

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