I am posting this on behalf of my friend who is understandably distressed by the possible diagnosis she has received for her daughter. I’ve copied and edited this from her emails (with her permission) to give full details, so please excuse any oddity of style. In summary though:
- 13 month old girl unable to crawl or sit up or use her arms, seems to find it painful to put weight on arms.
- Paedaetrician not listening to the parents’ assertions that she is otherwise developmentally normal and just dislikes being on her stomach or using her arms and is insisting on a neurological diagnosis, suggesting various chromosomal disorders and the like.
- Parents feel distressed at this possibility and frustrated at the doctors’ failure to listen to them properly. Would like a second opinion but not sure how to go about it or what the next step should be other than getting the X-Rays done.
If anyone feels they have something useful to offer or a knowledge of the system then she would really appreciate the support.
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My DD is 13 months now but she still doesn't sit without support or crawl. She had a health review in July just before we left for my home country. The healthvisitor wanted me to see gp to check her. So, I thought I'll take her to private paediatrician in my home country because we were going to be away for 3 weeks.
Her hips are fine but her left arm is in a wrong position elbow down, so the doc sent us to see a physiotherapist. She gave me exercises to straighten DD's arm and built her muscle strength . After coming home and having done the physio with DD for few weeks, I noticed that she avoids putting any weight on her right arm and that her elbow and shoulder blade click quite a lot. I booked a visit to gp as soon as we got home and told him all about it. He sent a referral to hospital.
So after 3 weeks of waiting they sent a letter to tell me that they've referred DD to community paediatric team for further developmental review. I rang the hospital to tell them that I know that her delay in motor skills are because of her arms. But they said I need to see gp to get another referral to orthopaedic ward... so more waiting and more delays.
I'm very angry that none of the doctors she saw when she was in the hospital as a newborn noticed her left arm, and I'm fed up with being sent back and forth without anyone wanting to do anything. The hospital had several opportunities to spot the problem with her arms but they missed them. I just keep thinking that what if I hadn't taken her to see the paediatrician in my home country...
I would say DD is pretty much where DS was at this age. She says mama, dada, papa and loads of other syllables too that don't make any sense she is clearly trying to form words. It's just her arms that are delaying anything to do with her motor skills. She has tried crawling several times but it hasn't worked out so she rolls around the place.
There's clearly something wrong. Plus she has never liked being on her stomach- not even as a newborn. It must be uncomfortable for her. So, now I have to book a time to see the gp again, to get the referral to the orthopaedic team. It’s going to take weeks again. Luckily DH's private health insurance kicks in in October so we can go private if NHS fails us.
Saw the gp today... She said it was utter rubbish and that DD should have been seen already. She said there's something more fundamental going on with her arms... I'm just in shock and so upset. It just sounds like she might need surgery or something. But at least my gp is sorting it out now.
We had the paediatric appointment today... She's about 6-7 months behind now (which doesn't surprise me as it’s taken 2 months to see a doctor!). First things she said was that DD doesn't really look like either of us, she's got dysmorphic features (bulgy fore head, sunken eyes- I don't see any of these, I think she looks quite normal but I am her mum).
Doctor didn't want to do xray yet but ordered MRI under anaesthesia, blood tests, physio and speach therapy. She was talking as if DD has mental disability... I still think that it's all because of her arms. That's why she can't do stuff. But hey I'm not a doctor...
I Googled the Doctor and all her research is into neurological complaints and dysmorphic features. Shows where her background and interests are... Probably needs case studies. And that's why she referred her to mri straight away.
We’ve since had a letter from her to say we can get the X-rays done before the MRI but that it’s very unlikely surgery will be considered, so she's already made up her mind that it's a neurological problem... And she's probably branded us as difficult parents! She ended her letter by saying her colleagues will do a follow up on DD in January, so it seems she doesn't want to deal with us anymore either.
Do you think i should say something like I hope my daughter is not denied any treatment she may require or just leave it?
The private insurance wont cover this because I went to the gp before the cover kicked in. Even worse, to our minds is that the doctor is very high up in the paediatric team so it’s highly unlikely anyone will disagree with her. We just don’t know what to think or do.