Hi everyone
I'm currently 34 weeks. Up until now, I felt really supported in my choice re section. I have ME firstly, but I also had an operation a few years back for very severe chronic anal fissures, where I was throwing up from pain and bathroom was covered in blood. Consultant who saw me after op said I would need C Section due to risk of damage to remaining muscle leaving me incontinent. I have less bowel control since the fissure op, I can hold for maybe 2-3 minutes, but when I need to go I have to go right away or I will have an accident. So the thought of how much worse natural labour could make that scares me, especially since I am only 31, I didn't think I would need to face incontinence at this age.
I told midwife at booking appointment and she referred me to consultant. First appointment I saw registrar and she said they would need to contact Colorectal consultant for input. Second appointment, asked what they had received from colorectal and was told no one had written to them, but they reckoned colorectal would just say it was up to me. So was given section consent form and told to have a think and look at risk etc. I did this, it wasn't a decision I made lightly at all. So today I met my named consultant for first time, and he made me feel really awful for choosing section. I was told people with MS and paralysed from neck down have natural births. He didn't see my concerns really at all, and proceeded to talk to me like a silly kid for a good while. I just listened and let him get on with it. He has booked me in for section, but made me feel so bad about my decision, whereas going into the appointment, I was 100% confident and happy.
Because I felt supported in section choice, I have been planning for that in relation to hospital bag, hypnosis/relaxation etc and now my mental health issues have kind of been triggered by this today and I am full of anxiety.
I guess I kind of needed to vent about this and hoped there were some other mums out there who could understand my choice and my worries?
Lou x
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Consultant made me feel bad for Elective Section choice
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ladybuglou · 12/12/2017 17:14
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