I am 39+4 with my 3rd pregnancy. My first baby was an emergency C section due to being undiagnosed footling breech, missed until I was 5cm dilated. My second baby was lost to a late missed miscarriage - he died around 18 weeks but I found out at my 20 week scan, and I had to be induced, which was the worst experience of my life. (It was well managed physically, but emotionally I mean).
This pregnancy has not been routine. I came back as high risk for Downs Syndrome after the NT bloods, and chose to have an amniocentesis, which came back as all clear. However, the bloods at the time showed low PAPP-A, which is linked to placenta problems in the 3rd trimester, so I've had lots of extra scans, as well as bloods for clotting problems due to losing our baby last year. Everything has been fine but I have been so anxious all pregnancy - every time baby has a quiet moment, I just assume he has died.
The plan that I had discussed with the doctor at 35 weeks was that I would have my cervix checked and maybe a sweep at 39+3, then a check at 40+3 to see if they could rupture my membranes. If they couldn't, I would be booked for an elective CS. Obviously they can't induce with the drip etc, as its a VBAC.
I saw a different doctor yesterday who says there is no reason to intervene that early. My cervix yesterday was clearly not ready (3cm long, firm, 1cm dilated). I had a sweep but the midwife did say it was unlikely to work. I am booked in for another sweep on Monday (my due date). But then, they want to leave me to 41+5 to attempt to rupture the membranes.
I feel very strongly that I don't want to go that overdue. I'm not saying this because I'm tired and fed up of being pregnant, I know everyone is the same at this stage. But I'm waking multiple times a night stressing about movements, having nightmares about delivering another dead baby. With my history and especially the low PAPP-A, I'm supposed to be at increased risk of placental failure at this stage, and it's so heavy on my mind. I think if I get as far as 41+5 I am going to have some sort of breakdown.
I want to say to the midwife on Monday that I'd like another sweep, but I'd also like to change my mind about a VBAC if it doesn't work within 48hrs or so, and to book for an elective C section instead. And give my reasons, obviously.
Does that seem ok? I hate arguing with medical professionals, but I really think I need to. I was ok with the original plan but I feel so stressed now. Can I change my mind at this stage about a VBAC? Are they likeIy to argue?
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Can I change mind over VBAC?
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SpanielFace · 08/01/2016 09:38
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