Firstly - sorry for length!
Background:
When I was pregnant with my son I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes quite late at 34 weeks after sugar was picked up in my urine at 32 weeks. I really wanted a natural birth (we attended hypnobirthing classes) but I realised intervention was now more likely. I managed the diabetes with diet but I'm not sure they'd have put me on medication that late anyway. I had growth scans at 36 and 38 weeks. At the 38 week scan the sonographer raised concerns about the baby's growth (the baby hadn't grown much since the 36 week scan) and placental blood flow. She told me 'not to leave the hospital' and that I had to see my consultant. I was terrified. The consultant advised coming in that night to start induction. Long story short, the induction didn't work (at all - no dilation so I couldn't go on the drip or waters broken) and there were some very scary times when the baby's heart rate dropped and I thought I was going to have an emergency c-section in the middle of the night without my husband there (midwife rang the bell, loads of people ran into the room, etc). After sleepless 3 nights they told me they couldn't carry on with the induction. After one doctor suggested a 'break' for 24 hours and start again and I burst into tears, another doctor suggested a caesarean and I gratefully accepted. After a horrible induction experience the caesarean was a very calm and positive experience. My experience on the postnatal ward was not great, breastfeeding went 'wrong' but my recovery from the caesarean itself was fine. I was later diagnosed with PND and the early months with my son were difficult. In all that I look back on the caesarean itself as being a positive experience.
I am now pregnant with our second child. Our son will be 5 when the baby is due and I will be 40. The big age gap is due to secondary infertility and we eventually conceived through IVF using an egg donor. I have GD again in this pregnancy but it was diagnosed much earlier and I am so far (31 weeks) managing well with diet.
I've long thought I wanted to have another caesarean. I have expressed this to midwives and consultants. They have all delayed any decision and I am booked for a VBAC midwife appointment this Wednesday (32 weeks). It has been suggested that I can have a caesarean if I want but I am nervous that it will be made difficult. There is no way, NO way I would ever consent to an induction. When I saw an obstetrician she said 'wouldn't it be better if you went into labour naturally' and that they will let women with diet-controlled diabetes go 1 week overdue. This obstetrician also told me that the 'placental bloodflow' concern with my son actually meant they were concerned about 'placental insufficiency'. No one had ever told me that before. It links to what a friend who is a paediatrician told me - that diabetes can cause the placenta to fail earlier than normal which is why they don't like women with diabetes to go overdue. She told me this when she didn't know I was pregnant. This has increased my fear of going overdue and the baby being harmed - I don't think I could bear to go overdue.
I want a caesarean because I would feel very very anxious going full term with this baby based on what happened last time and what I have been told about placental insufficiency and diabetes. I can't bear to think what might have happened with our son if that scan hadn't identified concerns. The caesarean is a known quality whereas vaginal birth would be a totally new and unknown. I could get a good night's sleep before a planned caesarean (which I didn't have last time) and go into hospital feeling prepared. Although a lovely natural birth may be the ideal, no-one can guarantee me that: I believe a planned caesarean is better than either a instrumental delivery or an emergency caesarean, either one of which I could easily end up with if I try for a VBAC. I won't agree to an induction under any circumstances as it was so awful last time.
Sorry for writing so much!
I assume I should tell the midwife everything I've written above about my reasons. I haven't totally ruled out trying for a VBAC (although probably am 90% sure) and I do want to listen to her. What I'd like advice on is what questions to ask. I was thinking:
After what happened last time - what is the likelihood of a vaginal birth without instruments; what is the likelihood of a vaginal birth with forceps/ventouse; what is the likelihood of an emergency caesarean?
What are the advantages for mother and baby of a vaginal birth over caesarean?
What are the advantages for mother and baby of a planned caesarean over emergency caesarean?
What else should I ask?
I'd also be interested in anyone who's had a similar experience to me and your thoughts.
Thank you. And well done for reading this far!
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Questions to ask at VBAC midwife appointment
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CorBlimeyTrousers · 28/06/2015 21:28
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