My first baby is due in just over a month and I'm terrified of everything relating to the birth.
In particular vag exams, having to have any kind of instrumental birth or episiotomy, or being forced by midwives into any legs open position as I feel v uneasy with people looking at my bits in any medical context (am fine with naked spas, life modelling etc). I'm also terrified that any birth injury will mean more exams, as well as the loss of my sex life and the indignity of incontinence.
I've only had one successful smear test, 3 were failures due to either panicking and not being able to open legs/relax fanny/both. struggling with legs anyway due to spd.
I've also had herpes, and fear passing it to the baby, as I'd be reliant on an exam to check for sores. Ugh.
Am aware that I sound fucking mental - I've been treated for depression on and off for 15+ years, and fear a traumatic birth will set me back into the suicidal mess I was in 2 years ago, with obvious negative effects on my baby and husband. Despite being off my usual helping of anti depressants I've generally coped ok with pregnancy up til now, and don't feel depressed so much as convinced that I'll become very mentally unwell in the months after pregnancy. We have moved house, and I don't know anyone locally.
Does anyone have any experience of refusing exams, inductions, instrummental delivery, or episiotomy? I genuinely fear for my mental health if I'm forced into this.
(I have no money for indeindependent midwives, and lack the attention span for hypnotherapy, and am a bit sceptical anyway)
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LeaveMyVagAlone · 19/11/2014 15:50
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