Hi folks.
I am booked in for a c-section on Monday for maternal health reasons.
It took us 2 years to get pregnant & it happened after an HSG end of last year (the dye test to check Fallopian tubes). Unfortunately everything that could have went wrong during this minor procedure did & I was left extremely traumatised. I lodged an official complaint & the SHO carrying out the procedure had never done so before unsupervised. So basically I was treated like a experiment with severe consequences to my mental health & confidence. He blamed his inability on the gel on his hand - yes that's why you rammed the equipment so hard into me that I screamed & cried until I was near sick! He blamed my cervix for being tilted. Eventually he gave up & went got a more senior doctor to carry out the procedure. The nurses were wonderful & told me I didn't have to let a 2nd attempt happen but I knew I needed the results before infertility clinic app so somehow I managed to let it happen, albeit with numbing gel etc. all clear.
A couple of weeks after the procedure, I underwent 2 plastic surgery operations for malignant melanoma skin cancer. Whilst being diagnosed with cancer was horrendous (and indeed primary infertility on the same day) & I was extremely nervous being on another operating table, the surgery itself turned out managable as did the post op recovery - I have wonderful support around me. My placenta needs tested after birth to see if the cancer passed through.
Somehow inbetween these times I forced myself to Dtd with OH as I was told fertility was increased after an HSG, despite the pain, trauma & absolute terror of anything in there again. Low & behold, our much awaited positive pregnancy test.
The trauma of the HSG has never left me. My consultant is being very supportive, thinks I have post traumatic stress syndrome & agrees a c-section is in my & the baby best interests. Problem is I rarely see her but her registrars etc are not in favour & try to terrify me from a c-section to a vagina birth trial. It upsets me everytime I have to repeat my history & reasons to a new face & I end up hysterical. It's like because there is no physical reason, my mental health doesn't matter? And the fact that it's men everytime who try to steer me away is laughable - they will never have to squeeze a watermelon out the end of their penis?!!
Basically to me the HSG is similar to birth whereas the c-section will be similar to my plastic surgery. I can't help but make this link & the thought of anything medical going near my vagina freaks me out & terrifies me - I don't know how I'll ever manage another smear test let alone attempt a natural birth. A lot of medical professionals have said 'just get an epidural early' but that's only masking my problems if that makes sense? I Am totally against assisted & instrumental delivery & the thought of any internals, interventions to my vagina is just a big fat no for me.
Has anyone any similar reasons to going for a c-section? I know no one can make the decision other than me but I would appreciate any constructive advice or positivity - I certainly don't need any more doom & gloom added to my current mental state.
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First time Birth & having an elective c-section
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SASASI · 13/08/2014 10:23
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