This is my first pregnancy (37+3) and it's all going pear-shaped! Advice about how to avert disaster would be much appreciated.
In a nutshell:
(1) I'm immobilised and in terrible pain due to pelvic girdle pain. I also have other health problems requiring strong medication that knocks me out for about 6 hours at night. Luckily I have a very supportive DH, who is caring for me at the moment and looking forward to playing a key role in our daughter's care too. However, we are told he will be allowed in the maternity ward for only a few hours each day, and there will no care available for my daughter from nurses. This is despite paying for a private room. I have no idea how either my daughter or myself will manage to eat and get washed. This is stressful and humiliating. I am at risk of PND already and really feel my dog would be promised better care at the vet's.
(2) Both an NHS physiotherapist and a private osteopath have emphasised to me that I must NOT lie back/have an epidural/put feet in stirrups/sit down for labour, at the risk of suffering permanent pain and immobility. The physiotherapist was very strong about this and I got the impression there were internal politics going on, as I had said nothing to indicate I was planning this sort of labour. That said, I have no idea how I would hold a squatting/kneeling position for any length of time in my present condition, and felt forced to consider a planned C-section. I was still weighing up my options yesterday when a most unpleasant midwife informed me, apropos of nothing, that they will do 'whatever they have to do to get the baby out' and 'physiotherapists swan in for half an hour but they don't know what labour involves'. She clearly does not consider permanent damage to my pelvis a real risk - and I will be definitely going ahead with a planned C-section as a result. However, I feel caught in the middle of some professional bad-feeling, with no real support in making a difficult decision. I feel I didn't get the chance to talk through the pros and cons surrounding natural labour with a professional.
(3) My consultant is on holiday and I haven't yet had an opportunity to request a C-section. Of course, I'm on tenterhooks in case labour begin early! I spoke to an SHO who said she could do nothing in the consultant's absence - and it won't be possible to speak to him until I am 38+5, which seems to be leaving things very late to plan and book a C-section. The possibility of ending up in the labour ward having that midwife 'do whatever they have to do to get the baby out' is causing me great anxiety.
(4) Regarding pain medication, the SHO has prescribed a cocodamol regime (30mg). I understand this drug can affect the baby's breathing, and I'm concerned that our local maternity unit has no special care facilities and won't be able to cope. However, I'm also at a loss to know how to manage such unbearable pain. The midwife I spoke to yesterday told me that the medications I was taking were very dangerous and I was to stop them. She also said that the doctors were untrustworthy because they thought only of the mothers, and couldn't be relied upon to consider the baby's position. I'm very reluctant to trust her on this, but I'm also concerned that she may have a point.
Any thoughts/advice gratefully received. I simply want to make the wisest decisions for the health of myself and my daughter.
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My birth experience looks like a disaster waiting to happen due to: (1) Dangerous midwife (2) Lack of consensus between health practitioners
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nothingsoextraordinary · 07/08/2011 17:49
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