I would greatly appreciate any help or advice people may be able to offer in relation to the challenges we are facing with our eldeset son who has just turned 5. Both my husband and I are continually torn between a want to support and protect him and the need to let him know that some of his behaviour is totally unacceptable. We are exhausted and managing him dominates at least a part of every day we spend together as a family. I worry every day that I am damaging him when I eventually get cross and shout or take away a toy. He is INCREDIBLY sensitive and can be overwhelmingly emotional and/or angry. Now he is a little older he can be unbelivably rude and violent. His tantrums are totally inpenetrable and he is so loud and intense at times I feel unable to deal with it. He was an angel in his first 18 months and things became more tricky from around then, difficult to pinpoint exactly but since approx 2 years old he has been extremely challenging to dress as he will only wear certain things. He has not touched a fruit or a vegetable since he was around 2. He is obsessed with sugar and chocolate. OBSESSED. He will do literally anything to get it and is almost vacant behind the eyes when in pursuit of it. If he doesn't get it, he will scream, shout, hit. He used to hit himself but has stopped now. He can get out of bed up to 6 times a night and gets extremely cross about being taken back. He lacks hugely in confidence and resilience when trying to do difficult things, he will get very upset and angry. He is becoming a perfectionist and likes to keep his room perfect (his own versio of perfect) and he gets very upset if he tries to write/draw something and feels he has done it 'wrong'. He has started school now and I am told he is behaving like a dream there, he loves it and can't wait to go every morning. Friends don't believe us when we say how challenging he can be until they see the behaviour and family who have stayed with us very clearly think we don't discipline him enough. Play dates can be an unmitigated nightmare. He has a beautiful heart and is the kindest, sweetest, generous little man when he feels safe - for example, he has given away his presents to his brother on his birthday every year since he was 3 as he doesn't like to see his brother upset. He has a gorgeous friendship with a little girl at school who seems to bring out the best in him, they talk and listen to each other. I am so exhausted by it all and would hugely appreciate any help or advice people may be able to offer. We live in West London. Thanks in advance.
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Child mental health
Advice re our incredibly challenging 5 year old son.
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clementine78 · 08/01/2018 18:52
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